telling her you dont want anythign to do with her is easy....call her, and say, 'Mom, I dont want you in my life any longer!" and then hang up. But you see.....i dont think thats your problem....i think you want her in your life but you want her the way a mother should be, as a positive role model...one to be proud of...one to share with your friends....one to be your best friend and confidant. so, dont say, How can I tell her to bug off.....ask yourself what can you do to encourage her to modify her behavior and become the mother you want her to be.

All in all - in the eyes of the god’s - family is still family (no escaping this). Try and turn it into your favor. Think what it is that I enjoy in my life? Let’s say making money (let’s just say) - therefore go over to her house and visit by making it a business opportunity - meaning, get hooked up with selling Avon or Amway (not to her, don't even go out of your way to tell her). Just before you go to her house stop by other homes in her area and try and sell something, leave advertisement and make it so like your delivering the adds like weekly news papers... Try and get to her friends and try selling to them. Read some sales books and follow what they say... Make friends with people her age, she doesn't know and bring them along over when you visit. Start to get to know some of “her” friends by spending time with them (somehow). Most problems come about because of a one to one “situation” (I know it’s hard) but when things are one to one (meaning not three or more) it’s so easy to have things go wrong - no peer’s... Try recruiting at a church for this one specific goal or even get into Dianetics. Just do your best and bring more people into the picture...

I would just tell your mom flat out. Let her know where she messed up and that you can't bear to be around her anymore. Tie up all lose ends at once and forget about her.

It will be difficult, but you have to tell her, in my opinion it's better to be honest... you could tell her straight up that you don't want her in your life anymore, or you could say that you need some time away from her... more evasive, but a lot easier.