Selfishness is there still and it will produce jealousy. If this is in your case then yes, it will but... If your forgiveness is real (It means wiping out of every thing related to it) then, no need to think about. If you want to forgive her then, be truthful to your heart and you will find relief and happiness later on instead of sorrow.

Dump her, kick her out the door like diarrhea

It would only be a "sore point" if one of you insists on making it one. She betrayed your trust - people are not infallible. If the two of you want to make the relationship work and both of you are mature and forgiving, you may be able to work things out. This depends on several things, such as why she "cheated" on you and how the two of you feel about one another. If you worry about it being a "sore point", I can only think that it is one with you. Drop it, as it serves no purpose. Work out the issues and decide: stay together or end it. Are you both interested in making a go of it or would you rather drop it now? Take that decision between the two of you and live with it.

Inflexible in chetaing hell yea, I don't like that kind of behavior. If im to love the guy I'm to married someday I aspect the same respect. No excuses for cheating. I can put up with everything except chetaing, lying or abuse of any type. Anything but those three.

Once a cheater is NOT always a cheater. If you believe she is sorry and that it will not happen again, you should give her another chance. If the love is there, then things will get back to normal over time. a one time indiscretion is not unforgiveable - there are going to be trust issues and it is going to be a sore point for a while, but like they say, time heals wounds. If you think that there is enough love in the relationship to sustain it through this rough patch, then it's worth it. You do not want to settle somewhere down the road when what you had in front of you was the best thing to come along - even if it takes time and forgiveness.

Why would it be a sore point later on? Forgiveness is the choice not to retaliate or hold the offence against the person any longer. It's not about forgetting or saying it was okay, or saying it didn't matter. Obviously there are some issues that need dealing with. Building trust up again is the big one. I believe it would be a good idea to find out what led her to cheat in the first place. My experience says that usually something is wrong or lacking in the original relationship, and the affair is seeking to fill that gap. Are her needs being met? Is she fulfilled and happy with the relationship? I'd say possibly not completely if she's gone to somebody else. Your ex 'mutual friend' is probably an issue as well. It takes two to tango, and unless he's going to say he was raped, he bears just as much responsibility - perhaps more. If he knew she was off limits, why allow it? More than that, why encourage it? I'd be seriously looking at that issue. At the end of the day, forgiveness is your choice. I don't blame you if you find it hard to forgive, but at the same time I would admire if you were able to give forgiveness. It's a gift. We don't deserve it, and we can't earn it. If you choose to forgive, the I would recommend sitting down with your girlfriend and working out where your relationship is at. What you want is to make sure that it doesn't happen again, on either side.

I find it amazing how many can answer "Ditch her, she cheated, and that's intolerable." My girlfriend, now wife cheated on me. There's no feeling like it, so I can certainly relate. You feel like someone has kicked you in the throat and then decided to try and drown you in the toilet. Then you feel like it's not possible. Following this, you desire to take the mutual friend(s), skin them alive and crucify them with their testicles in their mouths. I've since forgiven her and we've been doing quite well ever since. She's the love of my life and I can't think of much that can change that. Search your heart and then decide what you should do. Cool off, talk it out rationally, come to a trustworthy understanding and make a decision. Good luck with whatever you decide.

if she cheated on you and was honest about it, and told you up front what happened, she was truly sorry about what she did. Cheating is a mistake, and the people who say "Dump her, shes a piece of crap" are ignorant and have never experienced anything like what you are talking about... i cheated on my boyfriend who i would die for, im so in love with him. our relationship went through some tests, but we are stronger and more mature. i love him and sometimes it gets brought up, because i believe it is something necessary to talk about, dont hide your feelings. if you truly love each other, nothing like this will ever happen again. you can move on from it, and... never. ever. ever ever ever ever let ANYONE tell you it wont work, because "love can move mountains"

my girl cheated on me with a mutual friend, they go to school together 2 hrs away from me and i basically called her out on it . . .the day after valentines day, she did it two days prior to V day. she also broke it off in the past . . . a week before my birthday and she was coming up, so she could study abroad, where she slept with a guy in Cyprus. i was very mature and decent with her and chose to take some time apart. Even after i got it out of her she planed on traveling with him somewhere that just happened to be his hometown where his parent lived. He said nix after he found out i knew, he was not really the most confident person and may have been a little scared of me. but i recently found out that she took advantage of him while he was drunk in his room alone and he said "no i wont have sex with you" She lied for the reason she wasnt "speaking with him" saying some BS story. she continued to lie and i just had to break it off completely. in all you see there are many circumstances to effect an infidelity situation, but even now i will say dont break it off till it needs to be. Some people are never going to change as i have found but, some people will grow stronger in their relationship after, i grew, still single but there is no textbook solution. "How do you feel" if its meant to be you shall set each-other free, in your own way.

Will be one hell of a sore point if you don't use condoms with the bitch from now on.

I've been in the same situatiion....Dude just break up with her you will constantly think about it or worry she will do it again. Your relationship won't get any better. Plus cheating with your friend shows she will never have respect for U.....Learn how to LET GO and don't be blind....

Breakup with her. She will do it again.

well...i agree with a lot of the comments on here, but the only real way for you to handle the situation is to find out on your own...do some soul searching, if you will, take some time from her, not break up, just a little alone time and figure it all out...dude the worst thing you can do is go off what others say, no matter how valid and simple it may seem...people experience these things in different ways and they will tell you to do something hey did, BIG MISTAKE...trust me, i've been there and done it...if it's meant to be, it'll happen...be happy

DONT BE DUMB. please for everything that is right in the world dont get back together with her. IT IS OVER. it sucks so much to hear, i know i've been there. if it's your first relationship then this may be the toughest thing you ever go through. i wont give you details of my situation but trust me it is bad. you will think about her for years. START HERE. all these dudes that answer have no idea, or they do and took the easy way out and got back together with the girl. i not saying that getting back together with is "easy" but compared to breaking it off it is. you might think ALOT of bad things about yourself but she is just not the person for you. you are a good guy. the world is about balance, and she is part of that balance. i bet there is one guy you know that just "uses and abuses" women, that is the guy that these women are need (even if they wont admit it out loud). Look, the best way to get over her is to find a new girl. Even if you arent i love it will show you that you start something new. it wont be the same. but one day you will find something better. this is the quickest to a very long talk that you might need to have (not with her). if you really need send me an email.

i think that you should break up with her. chances are that she cheated on you once and she probably wont hesitate to do it again. if she really loved you she wouldnt have done that to break the trust.

I just found out my girlfriend cheated on me. I literally typed into google "i just found out my girlfriend cheated on me." We've been dating six years. We took each other's virginity. I moved to Georgia 3 months ago to attend law school, and she's still living in michigan for another 8 months to finish graduate school. She let some guy eat her out on saturday night. I literally just found out. I'm tempted to stay with her, because it would make life easy. I wouldn't have to make any tough decisions; I could just get onto cruise-control and let go. But I keep thinking maybe it would be better to start fresh. I just can't imagine looking at her in the face and trusting her. I mean 6 fucking years. Lame.

I found out my husband had cheated (quite a lot actually) He said he wanted it to work, he messed up, he loved me. So I stuck it out. Forgave him, tried to move on....that was 3 months ago! He was due home from work almost 6 hours ago, his cell phone is turned off, cant reach him. My point is this....either she will cheat again, or every time she acts out o sorts, you will think she is out cheating again (like i do at this very moment)