I met this girl my first semester of college, a year ago. We were hall-mates and became quick friends but never got too close. We went to many of the same parties and started going to the gym together. While working out, we'd talk about boys and school, or whatever was on our minds. I told her about this guy I'd been hanging out with and she encouraged me to go for it. Not too long after that, we were all at a Christmas party together, including this aforementioned guy and another of my good guy friends. She went home with my friend, which didn't really bother me. After they hooked up, she immediately hooked up with my crush. The next day I calmly asked her about it, and told her I just wanted the truth, but she denied it. Later, when hanging out with the guys, I knew she had lied to me. When I walked to her room to confront her about it, I heard her talking about it before I even opened the door. Her roommate and her were laughing about how she'd hooked up with him and lied to me about it. I opened the door and told her I knew, and she fell silent. I was crying at that point, and knew I needed to walk away, so I did. I returned later to try and talk things out, and yet again, she was laughing and talking about it with friends before I even opened the door. Again she fell silent when she realized I'd heard. By the end of the night I forgave her and decided to just forget about it, so we went out to a party together. We started hanging out more than before. I soon discovered that she was lying to me about hanging out with my crush ever since that Christmas party. Again and again, I told her I just wanted honesty, and that she not play me for a fool, but she continued to lie and talk about me to the guys I was once best friends with. Eventually the guys started to hate me, believing I was causing drama. We've fixed things since then, and by the end of the school year we were ALWAYS together, studying, partying, eating, working out. We live about 4 hours apart, so during the summer I went to go visit her, and she came to visit me just this weekend. I thought things were going well and was happy to see her. When I woke up Sunday morning, she slept in. I got on my computer and saw that she was logged onto the social networking site, Facebook. As bad as it sounds on my part, past experience with her made me curious to see the kinds of messages she had been sending. What I saw killed me. Every message I saw was talking horribly about me, to people I was close to and even people I barely even knew. I didn't tell her. She left that afternoon without a clue about what I had seen. I know that if I tell her what I did, she will play the victim. What should I do?

Walk away. She is not your friend.

I would never, ever speak to her again. I wouldn't get that upset about it, either. You did nothing wrong. I don't believe she was ever your friend, and she sounds like a bit of a head case to me. Four hours is a long way away. I would avoid all of the people and websites she is associated with. Do not feed her fire. It will drive her crazy. She is an attention-seeking backstabber. I know people like her. They are so bored and lifeless that they make up things to b**ch about. If your "friends" are making you out to be the bad guy, I would find new ones. They will see her for what she is eventually, because if she doesn't have you to kick around, she will kick around them. Good luck to you, and keep your head up. You did every possible thing to be a decent friend to this girl, and she repeatedly kicked you in the teeth. She is not worth your time. Go find someone who is just like you: A good person/friend.

Let go of this friendship because she's is not behaving like a friend. If you remain friends with her, you'll keep getting hurt.

Why are you even forgiving this girl time and time again? Seriously, fool me once shame on you.. fool me twice shame on me. What made you think that things would be okay after so many betrayals? You need to walk away from her and make a new set of friends. If your so called friend that you were close with could be so easily persuaded that you were horrible because of this girl then I would say they didn't know you at all.Believe or not you weren't as close to this friend as you thought. Someone who would "hook-up" with two guys in one night isn't someone I would want to know anyway. Time to move on and chalk this up to a lesson learned. Do not talk to her or have anything to do with her. If she speaks don't answer and if she calls don't answer eventually she will get the message. GIVE HER NO EXPLAINATIONS! She already knows what she did. How long did she think that it would go on before you found out anyway? People like her are small minded with low self-esteem just trying to make themselves look better. Rise above it and you will be better for it. By the way, I would notify face book or myspace if she put anything degrading about me on their website and take copies to the dean showing them what she is doing because that is unacceptable on all levels.