make new friends and if possible JOIN A CHURCH or group it may sound corny abut alot of times those are the ppl that will make u feel most loved AND with minimal judgement as opposed to your family who while they may love u will not forget things that youve done in years passed....it feels good to have a clean slate

when my battery's empty, i can't spin the spark plugs. i need others to jump start me ...

It is not about finding new friends or another s/o. That void was created by Him for Him alone.

Think of the nice things that you haven't lived yet and your dreams that still haven't come true and try to make them a reality.Find some new hobbies, try to do things that make you happy,cantact a REAL friend of yours... hmmm can't think of anything else.I wish that you find hope and love again.Good night.

I hope this question is not describing you. You have your girls, right? Plus, you have all of us.

Slop you know my story..Lost my son and lost my marriage, lost every thing and I'm still kickin'. If I can do it, I know damn sure you can budddy.

Hey buddy, thats when we turn to our friends, and try to make it day by day, we can make it, we just have to want to make it buddy.

keep busy... anything, you cant lie down to this sloppy. You have lots of friends here who care - sometimes things are not as bad as they first seem. x

Talk to your friends and try and stay occupied.:-)+

"Hope, it is the quintessential human delusion, simultaneously the source of your greatest strength, and your greatest weakness." My friend, hang on to hope. I'm sure you have a very long life ahead of you and wallowing in sorrows will not make them easier, or enjoyable. Like everyone else is telling you, you can look to your friends. You can also start believing in something greater than yourself, such as God. Or you can realize that attachment to earthly things is not necessary and then try not so much to focus on things in this world. We lose riends and family and things but not everything has to bother us, or else everyone would be depressed all the time. Choose wisely. And always hope. Don't lose your faith in the world just yet...

You do the only thing you can do ... Keep on going, and hold those friends you do have even closer than before ... Because together you'll make it through any storm. ((((((((((((((Sloppywet))))))))))))))))))))

You just live one day at a time and try to get through it .

My friend, you haven't lost anything. If everyone in your life who has 'abandoned' you is still alive, you can repair the relationships that are severed. They must have loved you a lot once and they probably still do. Honestly, it's hard for me to understand your situation because when I lose someone close, I'm usually the one who pushes them away. But I don't want you to have no one in your life. Explain your situation to those people whose relationships you valued most, and they will listen. Just give them time. Nothing worth doing is simple or quickly done. Most people will tell you to go to your friends for support in a time like this. It does honestly help, and we all need to do that from time to time. But I'll tell you this: learn how to support yourself. A person with a broken leg needs to go through weeks of pain and rehabilitation before being able to walk unassisted. If you go to the people you know for help, you eventually need to be able to live on your own. You loved the relationships you had but if, God forbid, they cannot be repaired, then there is nothing good that will come from you lingering on the ghosts of the past. Move on, when the time comes to. Your life shouldn't revolve around everyone around you because when they are gone, all you have is yourself. But its nice to have friends. We don't have to be friends, but I'm here, if anything. Not forever, of course, and when I stop logging on for one unfortunate reason or another, you'll have to move on then too. I hope you do well to repair your relationships and move on. Depression is not fun, I know that from experience. Just hang on. If you don't know how, believe that you do. Don't give up.

Improvise. When I write a story, I dont plan what I'm going to write, I just do it, and that's when I like my stories the most. Your only plan should be to get your life back, or start making a better one. Thats's all you need to know. The rest isn't for you to decide. Whatever happens will happen, so don't worry about those things. All you can do is pray and be confident if you do something. Like I said, always hope...

First, try everything you can to return those people. If that doesn't work, you can create a whole different life and identity for yourself... basically start anew. Make sure you don't owe anyone you know anything, or if you do, pay back (you know -- car/house payments, that sort of thing). Once you're done -- sever all connections, move, get a new job, and new friends, change everything in your life -- to benefit you, rather than crappy people who don't deserve it. I know what I'm saying may seem heartless or hard or impossible, but I have seen way too many times people that are stuck in horrible marriages, bad jobs, depressing relationships, and their unwillingness to change anything also stops them from enjoying anything, sometimes for the rest of their life. I hope this helped.

I play video games and lose myself (so to speak) in the story. It's getting harder and harder to do, though, as most games are made for the gameplay now, not the story.

TAKE THIS. you will recover 100% from this pain and get back to normal. the ratio is for example: pain will last 6-7 months for a 1 year relationship. usually alot less though

Whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger

You cant fill the void......I say mourn your loss.....for how long it takes. People can give you suggestions but doing things doesnt really help. Talking about it helps immensely. Talk to a friend or even a therapist. The Cliche "Time heals all wounds" actually works. You'll still feel the pain but one day you'll notice it wont be as intense.

i fill the void with chocolate. probably not healthy, but it works.

KEEP YOURSELF BUSY...dwelling on the past hurts...but what hurts more is you jsut thinking about it ...about how you could of made it work ...go out buy a book ...perhaps you can go for a walk in the park ... keep ur self busy ...

That is a good question... and I think that we all come accross this at some point in our lives!!! I feel that people have to fell love and know loss before they truely know what they had!!!! You should feel lucky to have had such a great love... and know that just because you have lost it doesnt mean that you wont come accross a better more true love.... in the future.... learn from what happend and try to keep a positive view of things... nothing good can come of bad thoughts RIGHT!!!!!

Fill the car with gasoline, empty your bank account, call and make overnight reservations and head to a casino. its fun and you will lose all your bad memories there, especially if you hit a big jackpot. Money has a strange way of making everything all right.

The first thing to remember is that you havent lost everything!nothing can take away what has happenend but somehow we do come through,I get the feeling that at the moment you cant fill the emptiness,it haunts you wherever you go,listen to the voice inside of you,hold your head up high and go out their,time does heal wounds believe me,be strong and believe in yourself

Dirty,sweaty,meaningless sex is how I fill the void...

It depends on why you have the empty void. Did you do something to push your loved one away? How do you keep going, this is going to sound cold, but you just pick youself up and keep on going, and find a neww life. Try and learn from any mistakes you may have made in the past. And work hard not to let it happen again. Hope I have helped a little. Good Luck in your new life. One more thing,look to God for your answer, if you already have, and he has not answer yet give him time, he will.

Recreate yourself...make new goals new friends, find a hobby, sometimes we need a change.

Well, I've been there. All I can tell you is this: time heals many bad feelings. I hope the best for you!

Love yourself. It's in this time that it is time to rediscover yourself. Learn who you are all over again. Start a new hobby, do something you always wanted to do. Don't start or look for a new relationship right away, which may end in disaster. Be the free spirit you always wanted to be. Quit your job and start that business you always wanted to start, change your location, start anew, just totally reinvent yourself and love who you are. Be the spiritual being that you are and communicate your wants to your creator. Have faith and everything good will come to you.

volunteer your time helping others, and meet new people along the way!

All i can say is time heals everything! It may feel like nothing will ever be right again and that that void will never be filled, but trust me, it will! I find its easier to talk to someone about the problem. Best friends can make everything better! Talk to them. Sit down with them and tell them everything and then after that forget it. After that, dont dwell on the past because it will only make things harder. So I suggest keeping yourself busy. Surrounding yourself with people that you love and that love you back. Basically just going out. It can be going to the movies, going out for dinner with a few friends, or just having a quite night at home watching Tv or chating on the internet. It's a hard thing to go through and the best things to help are pizza, ice cream and good friends!!

Get it all back

go shopping.

There is an old Chinese expression ... "Empty space leaves more room for the imagination, and in time, imagination becomes reality." ... carefully choose what you imagine may be a better type of a personal life for yourself in the future, then strive in the present to achieve it ...

You go into autopilot mode..How to fill the void...I don't know what to tell you. :)

Time heals everything. Start finding someone to love is a good way to fill the void. Don't be discourage. Don't think too deep about them when you start remember those moments. Take them as good memories.

Go outside yourself. See if you can be of help to others. If you focus on others and can benefit them in some way, your sorrows will not seem that important..helping others is the best way to help yourself. Happy Sunday! :)

reborn yourself. Think of it this way. I am reborn, how do i want to start this new life? And something will light up inside you and you will see new open doors. There is a saying which i love alot: "WE STARE AT CLOSE DOOR TOO MUCH THAT WE MISS NOTICING THE OPEN ONES."

Slop, you haven't lost everything...life continues on and the proof is all you need to do is look outside your window and see all the people out there walking and running to get somewhere. They are also looking for someone as well. You need to put yourself in the crowd everyday and see where your journey takes you. Be brave and leave your empty place and begin a new journey. You will be so surprised at what you find and who you'll meet. You must say hi first sometimes to get it going.

I lost my truck, mustang, jetski's, money, and basically my freedom to do what I wanted. But I don't care. I go to work, take care of my kids, and go out once and awhile. I date a guy when I can. I don't need anything in particular to make me happy. I do it myself.

first off dont lose hope never give up and keep on trying evne though it seems like nothing is going right it will eventually turn around and im my personal life i found that God, Jesus prayer has worked miracles nothing is better than knowing that someone loves you jesus loves you and i love you man (no homo) dont give up you can make it through

I don't know? I keep myself busy doing busy work. Anything to keep my mind off of it or it will drive me insane.

You pull yourself up by the boot straps and say I'm just as good as you...Of course Heart break hurts like hell...Part of life.but you survive...because we are only here for a little while.

I feel void. I don't really see any meaning in my life now or in the future. I have no idea why I still do my best everyday. It does not fill the void. My family does not fill the void. I have to go through my life to the end, then look back how the void fills out my whole life.

Keep going. When you stop, you can't pick up anything positive; you'll only allow negative things to come to you. Keep moving forward, taking the bad experiences and turning them into positive lessons on life. Don't give up.

Read a book, take a walk, play in your yard, do anything to get your mind off of your lost. I have found if I sit here and rehash over & over why this has happened to me, it starts to drive me crazy. I have analyzed it, replayed it over & over in my mind, asked what was wrong with me, cried, and still the pain is there. If I talk to someone about anything other then what happened I feel a little better. Sometimes I will exercise like crazy (the exercise takes my mind off of it). How do you fill the empty void? Friends, a pet, new friends, relatives, anyone you care about. Talk to them, hang out with them, tell them how much they mean to you. Don't go to bed before you let everyone know how much you care and say your "I'm sorry" to everyone. You never know when it may be your last chance. My dad taught me this, for 9 months I was blessed to be by his side while he struggled with cancer. And we mended our relationship, I told him every night how much I loved him, how I had forgiven him. He taught me a lesson about love and forgiveness and I try to pass this message on. It keeps my dad alive inside of me. I am sorry for your loss and empty feeling. I hope your pain gets less as the days go by and your life fills up with more joyful days. Take care.

Get out of bed, look good, walk tall, sorround myself with positive people ONLY, Keep busy with activities that will better you myself as a person (volunteer work, outdoor activities) etc. Prayer and Meditation also goes along way. - I have been down this road many times but you know what? so have lots of other people and we all have to "dust ourselves off and try again".

Everyone on this planet endures some type of loss. Please keep your head up and if you have good friends or family members you will get through it. I lost my whole family, about seven, my mother poisoned them and tried to kill my fiance, my dad, my cousin, my dog and myself. She has been getting away with it for almost 38 years. I can't begin to tell you how empty and betrayed I feel, however, God evens everything out. If you are a good person it comes back to you. Just keep your head up and do the best you can everyday. If you do just one positive thing a day you should feel proud of yourself. That is a start. Sorry about your situation....Good Luck. You have to forgive to move on don't forget it.

Yes, i know that moment.. In the beginning i did let myself to go into these moments: deep sorry for myself, big regrets of what i've done and anger on myself cause i didn't have more patience, i should have had... all these led me to dark sorrow. Belive me no point to do this! Then i realised it won't help ME if i keep doing this later on. So everytime i felt this moment come again scienter started to think on MY, single future.. every good way which can happen with me. New job, new partner, new life, etc.. Try to imagine yourself in a good future, but try to be realistic, you know you limits. But once if you can see yourself in a nice future you can think on it, you have a helping rope to grab if you need it. Also... i red above somewhere it's so true: we have to want to make it! Good luck!

I USUALLY PRAY AND FEEL THE GODS PRESSENCE. JUST SAY DEAR GOD AND U JUST FEEL YOUR SHOULDERS FEEL LIGHTER. AND THE OTHER THING I DO IS CRY,CRY,CRY THAN DEDICATE A LETTER TO THAT PERSON, WIRTE ALL MY FEELINGS AND TEAR IT UP. IT JUST FEEL RELIVING FOR ME.

Hey! always remember that every thing happpend for a reason,sometimes for the best. But one thing you should never forget or think that you are by your self because your NOT always remember that God is always next to you, all you need to do is call him.Hope you are feeling much better, God bless you. Take care

I ussually start to break down, then i just put some music on and make something or take something apart of work out.. anything to keep my mind active on other stuff.. there is no way to fill that void, i have found anyways.. just remember that you are always loved, from up people and up above.. you can never truely lose something. ever

One day at the time. The pain, the guilt and regrets are always hidden and ready to come out when less expected. For me, it seems that the void will never be filled again. But, life has challenges that can be fulfilling. Life still enjoyable.

Realize that noone is perfect, love yourself, and be true to you.If you can learn to love yourself then others will be drawn to you.

be patient time does heal and you will smile again

Sloppy, how are things going for you now? I noticed you haven't been here since the 5th of Dec. Hope things are looking better for you now.

Your never alone. There's always someone that cares about you, just got to find them sometimes.

I lost the person I loved more than anything and almost tried to kill myself I was so upset. But I couldn't do that to the person I lost. I stay alive for every person I know who's died, and I stay positive for every person I've ever loved, whether they're with me, in another country or gone. Because it's worth it.

i am so sorry i to have just lost it all .let me know how you getting through it . i am not sure i can

Hey bud, done it twice and it sucks. The first thing for me was to acknowledge that with some tears and raging (safe to do it on a mountain top or deserted beach). For guys this is often the most vulnerable they will ever feel... those that they have given the most to seem to have taken it apparently without second thought. To me it felt like I was about to collapse in on myself because I did not know what my role in life was and who I could trust. In some ways I did and am still working through this. How you deal with it can make you a better person, with less unfilled voids, or it can make you a person with a bunch of holes on the inside, not visible to others, or sometimes even yourself. Keeping busy helps, but it is really important to acknowledge the pain and find a support group, formal or informal, with whom you are able feel heard and... as important... to listen.... in acknowledging the pain of others we often learn to share our own and through this comes mutual growth. The success of groups like AA are prime examples of how this works... it has little to do with addictions and much to do with how we live our lives often unheard and unaware of our feelings. Good Luck

life is tough.. but its suppose to make u stronger.. ur suppose to move on.. and learn from ur mistakes.. and what life throws.. at u..never be a coward.. and stay in one corner.. get up.. u will get knocked out by life.. but keep standing..

Realise that your loss is actually a superior gain to what the other people around you have gone through. You have gone through the single worst possible life that any mere mortal could fathom of going through and yet your still here. I have met people who if they lose thier cell phone go into serious panic attacks. miss a house payment and they slice thier wrists. Why..because thier human response to pain and suffering wasnt conditioned to deal. And now theres only one way to go..up! and your a new person inside..you may shock yourself in a few years when you look at what you can deal with and what you see others around you freaking out over. Youve become a sturdy stone in your community and when your ready you can be there for someone..and eventually find out that this horror in your life had been placed there for you to mold you into your final stages of your ground zero to cloud nine wonderfull life.

> lost everything that you loved You can't lose everything you love because you can't lose yourself. If you don't love yourself (anymore?), (re)learn that first. You are here, everything is inside of you and up to you.

Buy/adopt a dog.

i enjoy this quote by C.S. Lewis : "To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and probably be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully around with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the coffin or casket of your selfishness. But in that casket -- safe, dark, motionless, airless -- it will change. It will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.... The only place outside heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is hell."

With my Love it is not of this world ..but in Heaven I Died just for you..seek me and all will be added to you. God gave you Jesus so you can Live with Him..John 3:16..May God richly Bless you

Its called alchoal

I thought that three times during my high school years.The next ten I just dated. I've been married to my present wife for twenty five years now. Moral of the story is; don't give up. When one door closes another one opens.

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We need more input here How old are you ? What do you mean 'lost everything'? Material or just a relationship ? If the latter, get involved with something-volunteer work can be very rewarding. If you want a friend, BE a friend.

U didn't lose everything. Take the time to think about the things u should b thankful for. Like it life and ur house and whatever else u have that u had b4 u were with that person is something u could think about. A person isn't everything so just move on, go out, live life and enjoy yourself because u don't deserve 2b anything but happy.