Not necessarily. I had and still have the same problem with my husband's ex. And we've been married for 2 years. As long as there are children involved, be prepared to put up with this from a controlling individual until the child is at least 18. If you had decided in the beginning not to be with a partner that had "baggage", so to speak, this might not have come up. I have a daughter, and two step-daughters that live with us. We have residential custody, so that makes it harder for us to deal with the other family. If you feel that this is a relationship you want to pursue and stick with, don't take it out on the child for his mother's insolance. As long as you are kind and courteous, no one can say anything bad about you or your behavior. If any bad or negative things are said about you, take into consideration she'll look like the ass for acting the way she is. Then again she could be testing the ground on which you stand to see how confident in yourself you are. Don't let her get to you. If you decide to not stay in the relationship, that is ok too. Not all people are able to put up with the punishment bestowed on them for no really good reason and bow out gracefully. Either way, good luck. Hope this can help a little.