For one: Have you actually admitted and acknowledged your mistakes that has hurt her? The next thing is, she has to be willing to forgive you and move on to make your marriage work. If she's not willing to put the past behind her, then your marriage may be doomed, because she will always hold those mistakes that you've made continuously over your head. Also, have you tried counseling, or maybe even your church minister? Try being more romantic with her. Take her somewhere that you two have never been before. Sometimes, just a change of scenery will do the trick. If you have children together, are you spending time with them, and helping your wife with the responsibility so she won't be so tired all of the time? Sometimes another good thing is talk to people that's been thru the same things you're facing now...don't(if you can help it) talk to anyone that has nothing but negative advice to offer. Just because they've been thru a similar situation like you, doesn't mean that your outcome will be the same as theirs were. Lastly, tell your wife more often of how much you love her, and need her(if you don't do that already). Women are very emotional ,and we go by what we feel in our hearts-if you're able to meet just some of these needs that I've mentioned above, maybe things will start to work in your favor. Good Luck:)

All you can really do is talk to her... Try and keep trying... She will see that you don't want this and that you really do wanna be with her... It only takes time.. The question is have you guys spoken??? Without the blame game and whos right and whos wrong, have guys talked without yelling and crying???? You guys need to sit down and have a calm talk... Talk about you feel and get to know what she's feeling inside... Ask her what can you do to make this better, what can you both do to make a happy median... Whatever you do Don't kiss her ass!!!! That only set's up for failure... Show her you care and show her she aan trust you with anything.... best wishes...Jaclyn