First off, how dare he say stuff like that to you, especially being in a a 3 year relationship together. He sounds like a prick, no offense. Total ass wipe! Again, no offense. It just pisses me off to hear when people are being mistreated and talked to in a disrespectul manner, and ignorant at that. No one deserves that kind of punishment. I would dump him. He sound very stupid for calling you that, and you probably didn't do anything to deserve that treatment. It's wrong to call anyone those names regardless, but you didn't deserve that. I really think that you can do much better than that. Don't keep settling and taking that crap. There is better out there, just don't give up on that, ok? If he really respects you and appreciates you, then he would not be saying that, i don't care what cockamanie excuse he comes up with. So basically, dump him, espcially if this isn't the first time he's pulled that. Your first step it to remove the negative aspect of your life(which would be him) and start to move on from that and find things that will make you happy and find people who you can be with that will respect you and appreciate you. That's how you heal, you eliminate the negative, and you start out anew. I hope this helps, good luck! Take care, and hang in there! 8o) P.S. you are a stong person, don't let crap like that hold you down!

Love does not abuse.. If he really loves you, he would not talk to you that way.. that is abuse .. I know from experience that it's never just a 1 time occasion.. and verbal abuse USUALLY turns into physical abuse.. It's not your fault and you don't deserve it. You deserve a healthy strong relationship.. Telling you to get out is easy.. getting out is the hard part but let me tell you, the longer you stay, the harder it will be to leave. My abuser would tell me "you don't deserve to live" and then out of nowhere, start throwing things, etc.. so you never know when that "verbal" will turn physical..and could lead to death..3 years is a long time I understand that.. but I also understand that this is not a 1 time thing, YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIM..NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU THINK YOU CAN.. abusers blame the victim.. Mine did.. "you didn't do this right or you did this on purpose just to piss him off.. It WILL never stop. He will promise to change "it will never happen again". BS.. Get out..call a women's shelter.. they will help you..NOBODY DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT. nobody.

That is complete mental abuse, he is trying to make you feel as low as he does.

You heal it by dumping him and finding someone who respects you.