I am 41 and SUPRISE im pregnant (Crying) I want to keep the baby but am afraid for my health and that I am to old. Do I keep my child or do the unthinkable? I really want to keep it. Help!

I've known several women who have had great late pregnancies, one even had a home birth delivered by my husband, a massage therapist:-) Talk to your doctor. It should be fine, just be prepared and listen to your body. Enjoy your pregnancy:-)

Keep it, love it and cherish it :)

In your 4th month you can get the amniotic fluid tested for genetic defects. In the meantime - BE HAPPY!!!! Don't destroy the little guy. There's no need for all that! 41 is NOT all that old, dear. Calm down, and relax. This is a wonderful gift!

My mom was 40 when she accidentally got pregnant with my brother...she's 60 now and very healthy and happy. :)

If you haven't gathered from reading the other answers here, you are NOT too old. I too know women older than you who have had kids. One of them wasn't/isn't the healthiest to begin with yet their son is. I think it's funny that her oldest is old enough (college sophomore) to be the father of his two brothers, but that is a separate issue.

If you want to keep it then get regular checkups just like any other expectant mother. Either you won't have any problems or you won't have any that women half your age wouldn't have.

You are NOT too old. There are many stars/celebs having babies even older than 41... And there are older people having babies, for themselves and for others.

If you're healthy, and do what the doctor tells you to, you SHOULD be fine. ;-)

Keep it, im 42 and i have lupus but i would do anything to have another baby but i cant cuz hubby is fixed....but there is great doctors out there that will take good care of u and i wouldnt call u old your still pretty young!!

I had my child 6 weeks before my fortieth birthday. She does have a genetic disease, but as far as I know, it isn't associated with age. She could have had the same issue if I'd had her at 19. Even with all we've been through, I wouldn't trade any of it for not having her. You will love this child more than you can imagine. Get to a good high-risk OB/GYN so that you know you will get good supportive care. Then hang on and enjoy the ride.

Is this your first? I know it is scary, but it will be the best thing that ever happened to you. In a few months, you'll be wondering why you were ever so panicked. It is going to be hard work, but its the most rewarding work you'll ever do.

As long as you're carefully monitored, you should be perfectly fine to carry the child and keep it. Relax.

You'll be ok. I was pregnant at 40, freaked out, then lost it just as I was beginning to accept it. Now I wonder sometimes what my child would be like.
As long as you are healthy, go ahead. Enjoy your baby. You are not the oldest mum in the world, by any stretch.

You will be fine, calm down...
This is not abnormal at all.
I hope you have a wonderful child, and name it Chris, or Christina, whichever...
Congrats!

If you really want to keep it keep it. There are women that are way older than you that are having babies (and you are not old). Women are waiting longer and longer to have babies now (into there late 30's and early 40's). My best friends sister-in-law is in her early 40's and just had twins. You can do it.

trust your body and keep the baby. you're not that old.

Keep it I would say unless you are sufering from any other health related problem... go for regular check up.. and Be happy.. get ready to welcome the new member of the family.. and yes my mom gave birth to my brother at 40 so Chill!!All the best..

Has it been confirmed that the baby has some disability or condition? Otherwise, I really cannot understand why you'd consider aborting what could be a perfectly healthy fetus that you want.

It seems wise to delay an abortion (or the plans for one) until after you've had scans and such, yes?

my wife had her first at 40.........Her doctor kept a close eye on her....we had a healthy 8lb girl.........sure theres risk...but ultimately.......dont do the unthinkable...give yourself a chance at the best feeling in the world.

I think you should keep your baby. A child is a gift from God. I can understand being afraid about it, but there have been other women older then you and they have done just fine. Pray for it and I'm sure you will be just fine. Remember God helps those who help themselves, and with a little faith and hope he will provide.

You're not too old to have a baby! You may be in a higher risk group, but that just means you should be extra vigilant about getting good prenatal care and taking care of yourself and the baby. This website has lots of articles and advice. Congratulations!!

www.pregnancytoday.com

Congratulations!!!!!! Keep him/her! Since when is 41 to old? Congratulations again!!!!!

Apparently you are not to old....and it is very obviously you do not want to abort...eat right...keep active and see a good doctor...don't cry...it is one of the most amazingly wonderful thing to have happened...

Congratulations! I agree with the others in saying you are not that old. As long as you are in good health and keep all your prenatal appts, you and new baby should be fine!

With today's technology, many women older than you have no trouble successfully carrying and delivering a healthy child. I suggest you find a good doctor with a lot of experience with older women and relax.

you should be just fine. a lot of women have babies these days at this age or around it.

but there is one thing.. i also have a friend that her mother got pregnant at 43!! the pregnancy went just fine .. but i'd be lying if i said that it is good for the child. the mother will be 50 soon her little girl is only 7 y/o...when the girl turns 17 her mom will be 60 years old!!
when i was 17, it was one of the most important and most needing attention periods of my life as i was going through my "teen" years... will a 60 year old mom be able to deal physically and mentaly with a teenager at this age?....honestly.. i dont think so.

but it's up to you in the end :).. if you think you will be able to raise a child properly and give him/her all the attention, support and everything he/she will need so theres nothing wrong about it :)

Goodluck whatever you choose to do!!!

Keep the baby--let it live, please.

My wife was 43 1/2 when she had our wonderful, beautiful, perfect son. Nothing is certain in life, but you can't live your life from fear.

It is a growing trend to have children later in life- Nancy Grace gave birth to healthy twins and she's 50...
Sounds like a little miracle- if its not meant to be the body will naturally work things out.

This question was from July...is there an update?

I have 2 friends who had their first (and only) children at 40. They were both fine and so were the kids. If you want to keep your baby, then that's what you should do. Just make sure you take care of yourself, you are not too old to have a baby. Congratulations!! :-D

So keep it. Don't let fear rule your life. And please don't let people who abuse statistics frighten you into doing something you don't want to do. Every child is different, and NO child is guaranteed to be a 'health risk'. Do what YOU want to do. Our youngest son is the sweetest of all our kids.

my mother had her fifth child at 40 years old, you should do what your heart tells you.

Relax! Unless your doc gives you a reason that you arent in great health to have a baby you have no cause to fret. My aunt is 44 and she's due any day now. Women of all ages are having babies these days. It's okay. I'm sure you're going to be just fine! Congrats!

41 is not too old to have a baby. You may have additional risks that a yonger woman wouldn't but a good OB will manage that. If your heart tells you to keep the baby you should.

awwwww ull be good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yay baby!

The risk is higher over 40 but just barely, it goes up much more rapidlyover 45. Talk to you OB. I would recommend testing even if you decline an abortion. You will know what to expect and can be happy with a normal delivery and no surprises.

My mom had my little brother at the age of 42, and she was fine, although women are different from one another, i'd say go for it.

You're about the age my mom was when I was born. I'd like to think I turned out OK, and she was (and is) fine.

I know a woman who had a baby at 45, and there was nothing wrong with her or the baby due to this, don't worry everything will work out, and your doctor will talk to you about your pregnancy due to your age...

keep it... my neighbor had a baby late into her fiftys, yeah its gross but she did and it wasnt my fault... she was in pretty good health though, worked out everyday... idk

My mother was 42 when she got me. Both she and me worked out fine. My partners mother was 40. That worked out well also.
But since there are more risks, make sure you have a good doctor and that you are under good observation.

OMG. If you ask a doctor, she may be able to help you determine if you are at risk for problems for you or the baby. Hang in there. This must be terribly emotional, but with the father's support and the doctor's advice, I know you'll be fine.

Have the baby! Don't be worried about health! Life is a gift!

Hi, I know we are not living in the days of old and you
your not a Bible story. I do know one thing in this life God will help you through any and all probs or test we are going through. I know that sounds like it is from the middle ages, but God is still God we are still people. He dose not leave us we leave Him. Hes always there and just waitting for us to ask for his help. You are looking for a simple answer, and I say to you there is none in the world we live in. We do as people do and then we think later about it. Do we see behind us how it will be for us and do see in front of us what it will be tomarrow for us, NO! We cant see the tomarrow but we can look behind us at what can or will be before it. With that being said you have to live with you and no one els!God sees your deeds bad or good.You can change your future for good or bad for yourself. Most people blame God for the bad things on the erath, If only you would listen to My words, He said!Quite harding your hearts and see what He can do for you!Tomarrow is a big word and today is what will help you see what tomarrow will be like. If it is ok I will say a prayer for you and yours,and for you to make, today the right move for tomarrow? Did you read about the woman that give birth at 65, it was her first and only!My sister give birth to 2 after 40. Shara was almost 100. I know we dont in Bible times.We just have the same GOD as always!His has not changed man has!



Living today for tomarrow,

A friend

..my mom had a baby at 39..i have a little sister that is 17 years younger than me..you got pregnant..thats step one at showing you your still capable of having a life inside you..go through with it..you won't regret it..stay healthy and think positive

If you really want to have the child then keep it. There is nothing stopping you. There is no reason why an older mother should not have a perfectly healthy child. Just make sure you have plenty of medical supervision.

Congratulations. :)

In your forties the big issue is probably folic acid - see your doctor to discuss a supplement ASAP, just to be safe.

There's no reason why you shouldn't keep your baby.

CONGRATULATIONS!

PLEASE keep it!!! I think you'll regret it if you don't. My mom had a baby when she was 43.

Congrats!!!

This is an old question BUT, you're about the same age as my mom was when she got pregnant with me. I'd like to think I turned out OK...

Keep the surprise that you have been blessed with. You are not to old to have a baby. I know a few women who have had babies who are even older then you.

My mum was 40 when she had me ;D
Never too old really unless you're in menopause.
Thats natures way of saying you're too old.

Suck it up and do the right thing...carry the baby to term and give birth to the child. Every child is a gift from nature. However, if you think this is not feasible....abortion is the next best thing, and quite natural. The worst thing you can do is have the child and put it up for adoption.