men like variety, it's genetic. porn gives them variety when they want to be faithful. if it bothers you, try asking him what his fantasies are and acting them out. Then life becomes one big porn flic and he will watch less

Nocole is correct. My wife does not have the sex drive as I do. Most women can't understand just how much of a sex drive males have. Its just not in most women's DNA's to want sex as much as males. I think I would blow up if I did not have a release every day or so. My wife understand this and is ok with me looking at internet porn. Its a way for me to fantasize and have a release. Its better than me going out and cheating to get my needs met. She gives me the time and privacy to look at internet porn when i feel the need and if she is not in the mood for sex. I am ALWAYS ready for her sexually when she has her needs though. I even do a pretty goot job with my 4" penis on her too *S*. I have been with her 15 years (5 dating/10 married). We have our understanding that way, and it works out great. We love each other and always will. Its just something you need to understand about how males work compared to females. There is an old saying that has more truth to it than Females really know. 3 things to please a man..... 1.) Feed Me 2.) Fuck Me 3.) Shut the Fuck up. I know.... its rude. But its so close to the truth on how males think its amazing. Women tend to think makes are complicated, but actually we are so simple females just can't believe it.

like nicole said men need that drive but yet they want to remain faithful. It doesnt mean anything if you catch them doing it, just as long as you dont catch him makeing a video of his own then your cool. Just make sure that it doesnt become a addiction... like keeping pornographic photos and magazines hidden away from you cause then not only do you have a problem but so does he and its a bad habbit to kick. Just let him know that he shouldnt do this often and ill try to help with what ever urges you have

I can't answer why men watch porn when they have a girlfriend/wife with any accuracy. But I can attest to what the porn will do to a relationship. It can eliminate the "closeness", sex, and intimacy of the relationship. It begins subtly, but progresses (like any addiction) to a point of just living together as roommates. When sex does happen - there are no words of endearment, no love, no affection - just an imitation of the movements from the "movies". Check this out for yourself and see if it isn't so. I have been married for 5 years - but together with my husband for 9 years. I have watched our relationship deteriorate, and though he tells me daily that he loves me - I cannot get past his choices of porn. "College girls", "Country Girls", etc. Don't care what all of you say out there - Porn does damage to the relationship, takes the fun and mystery out of the relationship, and makes you feel disrespected and dirty. Thats just the way it is. Too bad no one can see what will happen in the long run. Wish I had known this when I first found out my husband really liked porn. If I had said something then, then perhaps we could have changed things. Maybe not. I am sure there are those of you out there with all kinds of excuses and can justify all of our human frailtys - but the bottom line is Porn is a filthy, cold, and distant excuse for whatever is lacking in your relationship. It puts the wall up - and most people just live with it while the relationship falls apart for a few visual sexual fantasies.

omg i hate this i dont no what to do im 20yrs old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years in the beging of our relationship we were having sex like every day now i havent had sex for 6 months and its driving me nuts because i see his computer full of porn why is he choosing porn over me :(

I a man am going to let you ladies know once and for all why men like porn iv'e noticed alot of you are saying that you are sexually active and he still watches them, it could be one of three things ok..... sometimes sex isn't enough for a man, men need visual stimulation in other words a good man will want to take all of you in, your whole body,face,sounds you make,which is why men love the light on. another reason is maybe you aren't kinky enouph, pornstars show no shame in their game, men get off at the idea that a woman will let them do whatever they want sexually to them, men are insecure creatures and feel if a woman lets him take complete advantage he feels adored possibly loved men have a one track mind so to speak sorry ladies

The reason men watch porn is because they want something they probably will never get which isn't bad on your part because if you let a man have something he'll always want more and more

I watch war movies but I've never been to war and probably never will be. I watch outer-space movies but I'm firmly grounded on planet earth. I watch crime dramas but I've never committed a crime or investigated one. I watch films about sports but I've never played one. I watch comedies but I'm not a comedian. I watch westerns but I don't ride a horse. I watch the History Channel but I live in modern times. I listen to all kinds of music but I neither sing or play an instrument. You tell US what it means that some men look at porn even if they have a woman in their lives. While you're at it, what about the women who watch porn even if they have a man in their lives? You didn't mention them (and they DO exist, by the way).

they want tips on how to do it better with there wife or girlfriend or there not satisifed and need to find something else to satisfy them

I don't know why, quite possibly it was because they were watching it before the relationship and its become a habit of their sexuality. I think Porn is relationship cancer. Another poster said Men like variety, and I disagree, at least I disagree that men are made of like variety. I believe Porn makes then like variety and that is a very bad thing for a relationship. Women don't have to compete with just one women, they have to compete with millions now. Because Porn isn't about just watching sex. I doubt the man is watching only one video. They watch many different ones, and in every scene a different woman, and different type. Small, Large, Blonde, Brunette, White, Asian, Young, Maybe old but usually young. His moods and types can change often with the porn he watches, you can't be all these things, you can only be as you are. As you age the women in porn generally don't (unless he also fetishizes old women), soon he isn't attracted to you anymore. Granted he can't reach out and touch them, but you will soon bore him and he will may look for something else. I don't believe porn should not be tolerated in relationships, unless the husband and wife can create their own for nights when they are apart (and the means to protect it well). Call me old fashioned but I think a one woman man also means in the heart and mind as well as the psychical body.

well...i am near 30, my husband is 10 years older than me - we love each-other, no doubt! we started the thing with the passion - had sex evry day, sometimes 2-3 times a day! now the last 6 months the sex has been really tingling and its not because of me (the wife) not wanting it. vice versa.....my sexuality is on the highet level, besides that i am really the type of a woman who likes to experiment and there hasnt been anyhting that i wouldnt do in bed! besides that i am slim and attractive! and yet i have caught my husband sitting downstairs at 1.30 in the night watching naked female pictures, visiting some porn sites in the internet. i was shocked that he chooses THAT over the real thing upstairs! So - men over here - why dont you explain that to me, why is it me who keeps beggin for sex from the man who swears he adores me, but doesnt really want to leave the computer and have sex with me? how to react for that??