Why do men watch porn if they have a girlfreind or a wife?
what does it mean if they watch it?

I can't answer why men watch porn when they have a girlfriend/wife with any accuracy. But I can attest to what the porn will do to a relationship. It can eliminate the "closeness", sex, and intimacy of the relationship. It begins subtly, but progresses (like any addiction) to a point of just living together as roommates. When sex does happen - there are no words of endearment, no love, no affection - just an imitation of the movements from the "movies". Check this out for yourself and see if it isn't so. I have been married for 5 years - but together with my husband for 9 years. I have watched our relationship deteriorate, and though he tells me daily that he loves me - I cannot get past his choices of porn. "College girls", "Country Girls", etc. Don't care what all of you say out there - Porn does damage to the relationship, takes the fun and mystery out of the relationship, and makes you feel disrespected and dirty. Thats just the way it is. Too bad no one can see what will happen in the long run. Wish I had known this when I first found out my husband really liked porn. If I had said something then, then perhaps we could have changed things. Maybe not. I am sure there are those of you out there with all kinds of excuses and can justify all of our human frailtys - but the bottom line is Porn is a filthy, cold, and distant excuse for whatever is lacking in your relationship. It puts the wall up - and most people just live with it while the relationship falls apart for a few visual sexual fantasies.

I watch war movies but I've never been to war and probably never will be.

I watch outer-space movies but I'm firmly grounded on planet earth.

I watch crime dramas but I've never committed a crime or investigated one.

I watch films about sports but I've never played one.

I watch comedies but I'm not a comedian.

I watch westerns but I don't ride a horse.

I watch the History Channel but I live in modern times.

I listen to all kinds of music but I neither sing or play an instrument.

You tell US what it means that some men look at porn even if they have a woman in their lives. While you're at it, what about the women who watch porn even if they have a man in their lives? You didn't mention them (and they DO exist, by the way).

omg i hate this i dont no what to do im 20yrs old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years in the beging of our relationship we were having sex like every day now i havent had sex for 6 months and its driving me nuts because i see his computer full of porn why is he choosing porn over me :(

Nocole is correct.

My wife does not have the sex drive as I do. Most women can't understand just how much of a sex drive males have. Its just not in most women's DNA's to want sex as much as males. I think I would blow up if I did not have a release every day or so. My wife understand this and is ok with me looking at internet porn. Its a way for me to fantasize and have a release. Its better than me going out and cheating to get my needs met. She gives me the time and privacy to look at internet porn when i feel the need and if she is not in the mood for sex. I am ALWAYS ready for her sexually when she has her needs though. I even do a pretty goot job with my 4" penis on her too *S*.

I have been with her 15 years (5 dating/10 married). We have our understanding that way, and it works out great. We love each other and always will. Its just something you need to understand about how males work compared to females.

There is an old saying that has more truth to it than Females really know.
3 things to please a man.....
1.) Feed Me
2.) Fuck Me
3.) Shut the Fuck up.

I know.... its rude. But its so close to the truth on how males think its amazing. Women tend to think makes are complicated, but actually we are so simple females just can't believe it.

men like variety, it's genetic. porn gives them variety when they want to be faithful. if it bothers you, try asking him what his fantasies are and acting them out. Then life becomes one big porn flic and he will watch less

In my case, because my wife just isn't interested, and doesn't see anything wrong with ignoring me at all!!
But if I ignore her, it hurts her feelings, because of course I'm a man i should be some kind of emotionless machine.
In my experience, a woman will only have sex with you if she wants something, so it's easier to have fantasies about women who will never have the ability to abuse your emotions.

they want tips on how to do it better with there wife or girlfriend or there not satisifed and need to find something else to satisfy them

I am a man and first time I viewed porn was before my teens. In most cases, pornography is something that was in our lives many many years before our significant others were. It let's us do what we want to do without going out and actually having sex with another woman and cheating. My girlfriend hates porn and she knows I have looked at it in the past. Growing up it was a daily habit and now that I have a girlfriend of over 4 years it is not a daily thing anymore. If I have the desire to view porn I will and I don't feel bad because I know it is just a way to release and in no way am I replacing her with the porn.

What about the couples who watch it together? I bet that the female is not jealous one bit. All of you women who are complaining and making it a huge deal try and join your man in bed while you both watch. I can guarantee that it will be good sex as long as you do not start acting jealous.

No matter what any guy says,we look at other women and we fantasize about having sex with other women all the time. This does not mean that we don't love you, it is just the way our brains work. If it wasn't this way, the human population would cease to exist. Get over it and join in. It's just porn.

To look at porn can be just curiosity or harmless fun. To "use" porn can be more serious.
Occasional sporadic porn usage is normal. It almost stands as a contrast to your gf/wife and reminds you how great sex with them actually is. It can reignite a failing sex drive, or just kill 20 mins of bordom when your partner is unavailable or unwilling.
If a guy is very tired for a long period of time, overworked or fatigued, porn can be seen as easier and quicker, especially if his other is also busy a lot and tired.

If a woman ever uses sex as a power play even as a passing remark, expect your man to always have porn on standby. Its not because he wants to hurt his wife/gf but once you put the idea in his head that your sex may not always be fully consentual/mutual he will feel less comfortable "asking" for it. You are also making a big deal out of sex, this can lead to him being less confident or under pressure to perform well. Porn does not judge.
If you stop having sex alltogether and he uses porn, there is a problem. Most likly a lack of attraction, a lack of excitment/variety or a feeling of inadequacy.
If your sexual technique is to lie on your back and wait for the fireworks he may not feel the hassle is worth it, especially if you have any sort of "rules" or "needs" that must be met first. Anything you do to make sex seem less natural and fun is a bad thing. Guys are under a fair ammount of pressure as it is to please and excite their partner, but at the same time to not cross any lines. These lines are different for each person and one girls "needs" are anothers "taboo". Hit a taboo and society turns on you as a pig/bstard/jerk/pervert. Fail to meet a need and you are incapable.
9 times out of 10 its no big deal, 1 in 10 times the relationship needs flavour or closeness. It should be obvious if there is a problem, if not there is probably no problem.

i've been together with my boyfriend for 9 years and we still have sex at least once a day... even though we both watch porn! not together but when we're not together and i feel lonely i appreciate some nice porn :) and i'm pretty sure he does too. but that doesn't put a stop on our sex life because we talk about what we want in bed and we try our best to please each other. plus, after 9 years i know exactly what he likes and vice versa. so maybe instead of feeling threatened by porn you should try seeing it as an inspiration. the whole thing about porn is, that it's not about "why do men watch it?", its about "am i so bad in bed that he has to watch porn?". you should also tell your husband/boyfriend what turns YOU on, so that you have fun in bed, since there is nothing more sexy for a man than a woman with a wet p****.

My answer is because simply they have not grown up yet. Why I say this they want to live out a fantasy that will nvr come true. Their maturity level is stuck on a fantasy. But men let me give you the best advice you will evr hear. It ruins your relationship. You want trust rite well let me tell you my friend you will nvr get it by lookin at porn. First of all its decietful nd its woman who have no respect for theirselves. Woman should not cator to you. When you look at porn it makes your gf not trust you, makes them jealous, makes them feel not gud enough, and makes them insecure. If you can look at a damn piece of paper or a site or a video, what makes your girlfriend not think that you will look at sumone on the street. Not only this but it will cause problems in the sexual relationship. Girls have you evr noticed that your guy wants to live out his fantasy and not pay attention to you. It hurts. It makes us feel not gud enough. Its a fact that when most men do this they think about cheatin. Not sayin that they will but they do. And in some cases the men will cheat. Life is full of beautiful creatures but I dont take time check them out. When your truly in love with sumone you will give it up and that person will be the only person u desire. Its not a game and in some cases your girlfriend will not feel gud enough for you and will find sumone who thinks they are and dont need porn. If you have a beautiful gf why disrespect her. Be a man and kno how much she loves you. Why lose her to sumthin stupid nd disrespectful. If you want spice or something kinky added to your life do it. Dont be morons and look at sumthin that is goin to hurt your girlfriends. I personaly kno it hurts. It makes you feel not gud enough. But Ive come to realize that I dont need a man to make me happy and girls you dont either. So girls if you have this problem simply fix it. Or find sumone who will treat you as if you are beautiful and the only person they see. See men would be pissed if we looked at naked men. It takes the mystery out of life and is dirty and wrong. Whats wrong with the world today. When did sex become evrything. Love and bein with sumone is wat should matter. If your such a porn freak then u dont need a gf. Your not ready for the committment. Wat if we told you guys that we needed the variety of men. You would be pissed. You wouldnt admit it but its true. Nd woman have a higher sex drive then men its true. So when you men says its a personal need wat about our needs. Jus sayin its kinda like sayin hey Im rite and its ok. My feelings matter more. Do urself a favor grow up and treat ur wife or gf like a princess

I don't have a girlfriend or wife I'm single.That's why I look at it otherwise I would be busy fucking the shit out of them so I can feel the softness of there skin and wetness of there pussy.As far as why those guys do I would imagine for educational purposes so they learn different positions for there mate and different ways to give there women an orgasim guys will never admit that but 100% got the origanol ideas from watching porn.The second reason would be she hasn't had her hormone levels checked with a blood sample for her OBGYN so her count is way way low and not in the mood for sex so he needs something to get him started for when he goes in the bathroom.

like nicole said men need that drive but yet they want to remain faithful. It doesnt mean anything if you catch them doing it, just as long as you dont catch him makeing a video of his own then your cool. Just make sure that it doesnt become a addiction... like keeping pornographic photos and magazines hidden away from you cause then not only do you have a problem but so does he and its a bad habbit to kick. Just let him know that he shouldnt do this often and ill try to help with what ever urges you have

The reason men watch porn is because they want something they probably will never get which isn't bad on your part because if you let a man have something he'll always want more and more

LADIES I THINK YOU ARE OVER THINKING THIS SUBJECT LIKE YOU DO EVERYTHING ELSE YOU BLOW OUT OF PROPORTION WITH YOUR EMOTIONS... HOW COME EVERYTIME A MAN WANTS SOMETHING THAT PEAKS OURINTEREST WE ALWAYS HAVE TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT? DO WE JUDGE YOU AND CALL YOU DISRESPECTFUL BECAUSE YOU READ THOSE SEX NOVELS, OR EVEN WHEN YOU GO OUT AND BUY YOUR SEX TOYS? HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT FOR A MINUTE THAT YOUR GUY COULD POSSIBLY BE THINKING OF YOU WHEN HE IS WATCHING PORN? MAYBE WHAT HE IS WATCHING IS WHAT HE WANTS BUT DOESNT FEEL LIKE HE CAN TALK TO YOU ABOUT THESE THINGS BECAUSE YOU ALL FROWN UPON IT... HERE IS A TIP... YOU WANT HIM TO STOP WATCHING PORN... NEXT TIME YOU FIND WHAT HE IS WATCHING STUDY IT AND SURPRISE HIM... IF YOU CONTINUE TO SEE THE SAME FETISH OR WHAT EVER KEEPS HIS INTEREST WHEN YOUR NOT AROUND THEN HE MORE THAN LIKELY HE WANTS THAT IN REAL LIFE.. JUST THINK ABOUT IT.... WOULDNT YOU WANT YOUR FANTISY MET WITH UNDERSTANDING NOT RIDICULE AND HOSTILITY.. I FEEL BAD FOR THE GUY WHO HAS TO DEAL WITH THE WOMEN WHO PUTS HIM DOWN FOR WANTING TO EXPRESS HIMSELF...



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I don't know why, quite possibly it was because they were watching it before the relationship and its become a habit of their sexuality.

I think Porn is relationship cancer. Another poster said Men like variety, and I disagree, at least I disagree that men are made of like variety.

I believe Porn makes then like variety and that is a very bad thing for a relationship. Women don't have to compete with just one women, they have to compete with millions now. Because Porn isn't about just watching sex. I doubt the man is watching only one video. They watch many different ones, and in every scene a different woman, and different type. Small, Large, Blonde, Brunette, White, Asian, Young, Maybe old but usually young. His moods and types can change often with the porn he watches, you can't be all these things, you can only be as you are. As you age the women in porn generally don't (unless he also fetishizes old women), soon he isn't attracted to you anymore. Granted he can't reach out and touch them, but you will soon bore him and he will may look for something else.

I don't believe porn should not be tolerated in relationships, unless the husband and wife can create their own for nights when they are apart (and the means to protect it well). Call me old fashioned but I think a one woman man also means in the heart and mind as well as the psychical body.

I a man am going to let you ladies know once and for all why men like porn iv'e noticed alot of you are saying that you are sexually active and he still watches them, it could be one of three things ok.....
sometimes sex isn't enough for a man, men need visual stimulation in other words a good man will want to take all of you in, your whole body,face,sounds you make,which is why men love the light on. another reason is maybe you aren't kinky enouph, pornstars show no shame in their game, men get off at the idea that a woman will let them do whatever they want sexually to them, men are insecure creatures and feel if a woman lets him take complete advantage he feels adored possibly loved men have a one track mind so to speak sorry ladies

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well...i am near 30, my husband is 10 years older than me - we love each-other, no doubt! we started the thing with the passion - had sex evry day, sometimes 2-3 times a day!
now the last 6 months the sex has been really tingling and its not because of me (the wife) not wanting it. vice versa.....my sexuality is on the highet level, besides that i am really the type of a woman who likes to experiment and there hasnt been anyhting that i wouldnt do in bed! besides that i am slim and attractive!
and yet i have caught my husband sitting downstairs at 1.30 in the night watching naked female pictures, visiting some porn sites in the internet. i was shocked that he chooses THAT over the real thing upstairs!

So - men over here - why dont you explain that to me, why is it me who keeps beggin for sex from the man who swears he adores me, but doesnt really want to leave the computer and have sex with me?
how to react for that??