personally i have a lot of trouble maintaining a certain amount of structure in my life. i found one of the things that helped me out while i had it was a palm pilot. basically i just used the calendar function and address function in it so i guess it was a $150 dayplanner. i found that was a good enough start, after i lost it though, the minute amout of structure i had built up kind of unravelled. i guess for me it's a combination of lack of motivation and apathy. good luck though, i'm still working on it myself.

What imposes structure in my life are my job, education, and pets. Those have schedules that break for no one! :) Pets even have to eat and go to the bathroom when you are sick. Calling in sick doesn't help.

It's kind of overwhelming to try to structure your entire life, but maybe if you break it down into parts it is more manageable. Start with a closet. Get everything out of it, and get rid of all the clothes you haven't used in a year. Bag them up for a charity. Same for shoes, purses, etc. Hang your clothes by type -- blouses together, skirts, pants, etc. Put up hook racks for things like ties, belts, scarves. Dust the closet shelves, and if there are things there in boxes, use either see-through containers or label the boxes with the labels clearly visible. Now one part off your life has structure. Move onto another closet or pantry. For a food pantry, get clips to secure things like bags of flour, sugar, etc and keep those kinds of things all together. Put all of your canned goods together, etc. You can try the same ideas with your desk at work. Use labels and put everything in its place every day. Clutter just stresses you out even more. Maybe this seems simplistic, but it really does feel good to have something organized. It really does take less time to keep things organized than to search all over the place for things that aren't in their place. And you end up having more time for the fun stuff. This website has some good ideas too. http://www.creativehomemaking.com/organizing/home_organizing.shtml

Interesting that someone with a BS in IT and MS in Telecommunications is seeking structure in their life. Those are two of the most structured fields of education that I can think of. Maybe your desire for structure drove you towards those fields. I find that some lack of structure makes my life a bit more exciting. Nothing like having kids to both throw structure at you and and prevent you from following a set structure at the same time. If you don't want to go the drastic route of having kids just to get some structure in your life, i would recommend obtaining a Franklin Day Planner. It comes complete with a set of instructions on how to structure every aspect of your life, using circles, Xs and checkmarks. They also offer the Franklin Day Planner course if you prefer not to read instructions, and for those paperphiles out there, there is an electronic version.

How bad is your problem? Are you just being hard on yourself? It is good to accept yourself as you are first, then I would start with one or two things you want to change, get that into a habit pattern, then work on something else when you are comfortable. One of the best things for structure, I think is sleep patterns. I don't think it is good to sleep too much. Try to get at least 8 hours of sleep and go to bed at approximately the same time and get up around the same time every day. Also, eating on schedule can help too.