At 24 she shouldn't need your husband, her father, to support her completely. She can certainly do her masters degree if she is capable, but must also take on the responsiblity of her age and status. She must have some independent means of supporting herself in life, and then the occasional top-up from her father isn't so onerous. You need to broach the subject carefully with him, though, as he will see things differently. I love my wife most dearly, but would sell my possessions to give my children a better chance in life. The only line I would pay heed to is when it tips the balance of my wife's ability to live 'comfortably'. We can do without a holiday every year, but telephones and computers are more necessary to us. I don't need lobster every week, but I do eat every day. If he understands the implications for you, and your view of how it is stretching your relationship, he may be more amenable to finding a 'third way'.

This is a tough one. On the one hand, your husband wants to continue to provide for his daughter; on the other, you think she is old enough to provide for herself. Getting a master's degree is not a cheap thing to do, but at 24 she should be making a major financial contribution to it herself. This degree does not usually require full-time attendance for several years; the courses may be full-time (or not, depending on course scheduling) , but the thesis afterwards can be spread over several years on a part-time basis. That said, you need to know what your husband's reasons are for continuing to support her. Is she a good scholar and will her advanced degree be put to good use? Are you well off financially and can afford to continue to support her? Does your husband feel that he didn't have enough time or contact with her as she was growing up and this is a way to extend those nice fatherly feelings? Is her attitude one where she expects and even demands that her father continue to support her? Does supporting her place a financial burden on your household? Has she ever held a job, even a part-time one? Unless the continued support is a hardship, she has no plans to provide even some of her needs for herself and her attitude is an immature one of 'you owe me', I would not try to stop your husband from maintaining this aspect of his relationship with her.

Kinda sounds like you are jealous. are you jealous? she is his daughter and i guarantee his daughter will come before you, any day of the week. its the father-daughter blood relation. Its been my past experience, that you are wasting your time, by complaining. accept it as is and go on with your lives. if not, you might just have unexpected trouble down the road.

First of all, he is great father. He would do the same for your children if u have any together no doubt. She is 24 i wouldn't expect him to pay for everything, but little bit of pocket money or pay some bills or buy her a used car and tell her, It is time for her to get out there get a part time job and support herself. Or else she could take some student loan and pay through her schooling. i wouldn't suggest 100% support but little bit if support here and there will be OK. This is very sensitive issue and i would advise u to approach carefully.

You do sound somewhat hostile. I think if your husband can afford to help and sincerely wants to help, then that's their business. Of course, the daughter should be grateful. Also, if at all possible, she could/should find a part-time job or a scholarship/loan to take on some of the responsibility for herself. But I do know many parents who prefer to pay their child's way instead of seeing them graduate with massive amounts of student loan debt. Maybe the daughter can consider her father's help with her master's degree as a loan and pay it back once she gets her career started?

You married a man who had a pre-existing family. If your husband wants to continue to support his daughter and her educational pursuits, that's his perogative. You really should talk to HIM about how you feel about it all and not to HER. Your problem isn't his daughter still being a dependent but your husband still being dependable to her. When you marry someone with children from a former relationship, you do have to deal with all the 'baggage' that comes with it. It's only money, easy come easy go and all a blessing from God anyway - so try caring more about your husband and his daughter and less about the money.

Great 4-years good thing! Master's degree great, get ahead in life! Obviously you must be not his first wife. To not care about her future, is to cut her down. She really shouldn't EXPECT anyone to pay for herself. If your husband is willing to pay then he will pay. Anyway, isn't most important that your children succeed. Don't you care much for his daughter? I mean you married him you should try to love her as much as he loves her...

Okay let the DR's begin...lol... I can see where you're coming from though. Ive been in the step-mom situation and it is hard. Where does your husband stand on this? If he wants to pay then thats one thing, but if he feels the same way, that perhaps she's taking advantage than I think it should be nipped in the bud. At 24 with an associates agree (I assume)she should be able to provide for herself. I was a single mom holding down a full time job AND going to college at that age. Good luck!!!

Ultimately, it's your husband's decision. He sounds like a good, supportive father (which also means he should be a good husband to you). I don't know the girl, so I am not sure if she's taking her dad for granted or if she's appreciative of his help with college. If she is a good student, then there's nothing wrong with him wanting to help out. However, I'd caution her against getting her master's right out of college because the extra education will not compensate for her lack of work experience. If she insists on going to grad school, sit down with her and her father and suggest that she apply for some assistantships. A good master's program will provide at least partial funding for its students.

I was on my own at 17 and I was solely responsible for paying my way. I had scholarships and financial aid. This was because my folks were cash-strapped and I did not expect my parents to pay for my college education; that's called getting off your duff and making it happen yourself. On the other hand, If I had the financial means to pay for my child to obtain their degree then I would do so, without hesitation. Bottom line is if you and your husband have the financial means then, "why not"? The daughter also ought to have her own job too.

College expensive. Stop being selfish. If your husband can afford it, he SHOULD pay for it. Why? Because it's HIS DAUGHTER. At 24, she is NOT prepared to pay for something as expensive as college - that's WHY PARENTS PAY FOR IT. Stop thinking of yourself for five minutes and give the girl a break.

I think if her father is in the position to give her this oppertunity and better her life he should definitly do it. Maybe she will be a great success one day because of it and take care of the both of you. It sounds like she's your step-daughter. If she was your real daughter do you think your opinion may be different?

I think she should get a job to help pay for it but she shouldn't stop getting a better education