She says she needs her space and time but I still get e-mails saying she misses me. Why?
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It seems like she's conflicted. Part of her wants to stay with you, part of her (or her friends or another influence) wants her to leave. Sit down and have a conversation. That's usually the best way to work things out. Emotions aren't transmitted by email. The phone can even mask some emotions. You need to talk person to person to work this out.
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Sure, of course. Why not? That's a good thing. She is protecting her own mental space. That's healthy. She also misses your presence. That's nice; she likes you. So she is preventing the pair of you from getting entangled. There is a point where you stop and she starts (and where she stops and you start). You are not one person, you do not have to abide by the same rules. Take a leaf out of her book and find some time for yourself. What do you really like? What corny music would you listen to if you thought no-one would notice? Where do you go if you just spend time with yourself with no TV, or books or destractions? Can you find a way in which it is great to have your own company -valuable to do so- and yet you still miss her? Try it out. You don't need to talk to her, use your imagination. Put yourself in her shoes. Of course if you ENJOY the fact that you don't understand her, then you wouldn't want to do these things.
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Think of it as quitting an addiction. If you were a smoker and quit. you'd still miss it. you to might rebound. start smoking again. Then quit. It's all related.
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