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  • Has it always been this way? If so, you will always be in the middle and forced to choose;unless each side is willing to at least attempt to work things out.Do you have children with your husband? If not but are thinking about it, you will have this same issue to a larger degree. The solution isn't with you, it's with your family and your husband's family. How do you get along with his family? If the dynamics are similar, then you may have even less of a chance of working things out. If you get along well with his family, then perhaps you should softly point that out. If he isn't close to his family, that may be part of the reason he doesn't get along with yours--a 'cutting of the apron strings' if you will.
  • I live in the exact same situation except my family is open to him but he doesn't feel "comfortable" around them. We have two small children and it really sucks. I feel as though he doesn't understand that he doensn't have to love my parents, sister and nephew that I would just like for him to spend a few hours a year for thanksgiving, christmas and my parent's birthdays, that's all! To top it off, his Mother lives with us and she's pretty overbearing. In my case there isn't really a solution besides getting out of the marriage. I just deal with it day by day. When I got my parents, he gives me the silent treatment for a while and eventually gets over it. I'm having a hard time explaining it to my children & I live with horrible guilt when I decide to stay and miss out on dinners that my parents invite us to... Any ideas on getting him to understand the importance of being reciprocal? I doubt there are any solutions but thought I'd write...

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