Why do moms seem to be held responsible for choices children make no matter how old the children become. If it's something negative, it's always something to do with the mom. Why?
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The mother usually plays a huge part in how one develops, bu it is not fair to assume that everyone is a product of their mother's care. It's just an easy explanation for a maladjusted individual.
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Once the child begins entering adulthood, driving themselves to places and entering the workplace, They also begin being responsible for their own actions. 90% of things I can teach, but some things I can only offer advice on. I can't teach workplace rules, but I can teach respect for coworkers and management, for example. But if my kid goes hog wild out of my sight, then they are also responsible for the consequences. I can guide, but I cannot force.
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That is so true. The mom does get blamed for all that goes wrong.. Because people find it so easy to say, oh, she always gave in to him, or she was nevr around, that's why he's the way he is..You can't win, moms are always blamed. Gotta blame somebody!
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They feel they need to blame someone, so they automatically blame the parents, not just the mom. Adults should be held accountable for their own actions, you can teach your child, but they make their choice whether to follow your advice or not.
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Only she was there.
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To tell you the truth even if people admitted or not but the truth s the wife is the one that has the pants. and even if the father is a hard worker and they are the ones to bring the food on the table, women are he ones that usually do the raising for the child... the blame the mom because they say hey the mom raised him or her wrong because history has always appointed the mom as the one that stays home and docent work and raises the children...
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Because women are still often seen as second class citizens in our society and traditionally mums have been seen as the ones responsible for child-rearing. Never mind that kids pick up a lot of bad ideas off their peers and off the internet and that most times their mums are doing the very best they can with them.
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Society in general tends to blame women for a great many things it seems. This extends over different cultures as well.
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I think it's because it is the mothers decision not to spank kids and do that "time out" crap that doesn't work. And the father can't do anything or will have marital problems.
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Because moms tend to raise the kids, although it should be an even amount of parenting going on but traditionally its the moms. If their kids screw up the blame is partially put on the om (and/or father) because it reflects their parenting skills and/or shows what they might have done wrong while raising the kids. Children typically pick up on the behaviour of their parent and will usually copy that (ex: if parents have a tendency to lie, the child will). People kind of expect that a parent should try to have their kid the least screwed up as possible, and if the kid has "strayed", people may assume that his/her home life wasnt that great/parents lacked parenting skills.
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One reason is that I think people like to find a reason to say something bad about someone else. It's true though that they usually say it about the mom. That's just not true. There are children that have made bad choices that have been raised by wonderful mothers. And, there are children that have not had ideal mothering who go on to make wise choices. For example, take the girl that made her way to Harvard and had to live on the streets because both her mother and father were alcoholics. You know, the book "From Homeless To Harvard". Thanks for the question.
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'Cause us Dads are perfect in every way. Hope this helps.
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