what so they are disowning you because you and ya girlfriend are keeping the baby?

The parents are handling this in a very immature manner, and I'm sorry to see that happen. The last thing the two of you need at this point is to have another burden you're not ready for thrown on you. Sit down and talk together with all of your parents. Explain that you are keeping this baby because you believe it is the right, responsible thing to do. You're going to get a lot of mockery about being responsible and probably a few snide comments about not using protection to begin with. Tell them you know you made a mistake and you're accepting the consequences of it and that you would appreciate being supported in this decision. This is after all, going to be their grandchild too, and if they don't want to help you two out, ask them to at least help for the sake of the baby. They may still refuse, in which case you're going to have to jump start your adult life. There are lots of programs out there for new mothers to join, and plenty of financial aid should you need it. I hope they'll come to reason and get involved in the next stage of their childrens' lives, but if not, I wish you all the luck in the world.

For starters, show your parents how mature you are, not just by admitting the mistake or stating your desire to keep the baby, but by going out and planning for your child's wellbeing. If you don't have one already, get a job. Go to the library and start checking out books on helping babies get a good start. Get counseling. Get both families together and openly discuss what is best for the child, and don't leave anything (even adoption, though be prepared to argue your case) off the list. Start up a college fund, and believe me when I say that it's impossible to do that too early, or with too much money. I won't lie to you. Children cause sweeping changes to your life, and to prove to your families your potential as a father, you need to accept that head-on. That said, I've known women who, at your age or still younger, were incredibly good mothers (sadly, their boyfriends had removed themselves by this point). It's certainly possible you're capable of doing this, and the fact that you're asking for help is a definite sign of that. Incidentally, I do have to recommend some clarification. You stated, "my girlfriend is also young," rather than saying she's your age or a little older/younger. If the age is significantly different, that may also be a factor in your parents' reactions.

Parenhood is a big responsibility so if you are not ready do the right thing but don't let your parents make that decision for you if anything your parents should be proud that you are young and want to take the responsibiltiy of a baby at a young age. Do what your heart is telling you not everyone else.

How do you intend on keeping the baby? Do you have enough income to provide for yourselves and a baby? Do you carry insurance? My own parents were very young when they had me and my brother. They were simply horrible parents. They were much better parents to my youngest siblings. Think very hard. Perhaps you should consider adoption. There are many couples out there praying for a child.

parenting is a hard thing i am only 18 and i am having my first child and trust me its hard being a single mother and not always having someone there for you!!! i finally meet a guy who loves me for who i am and has been taking care of me and my unborn daughter!!! so my advise to you is no matter what people tell you do what your heart desires and never let anyone no matter who they are and how much you love them keep you from something you want to do!!! all in all i hope that everything works out for you and if you ever need anything let me know!!!