Do you honestly believe it's up to him to change? I don't. I think you BOTH have a part to play. You have a tendency to be jealous. Admitting it is the first step, but you still have work to do. You can't simply expect him to make changes to allow for your jealousy, you need to take responsibility for the jealousy. It would be better for you to work on your jealousy, by seeing a therapist to get to the root causes, whatever. Even if you broke up with your fiance, you're going to have a tough time in relationships if you're jealous and expect others to change to make room for it. Yes, he should try to be sensitive to what might trigger you, but this is mostly your problem to work out. The fact he's not ''changing'' isn't a sign he doesn't love you, more that he can only do so much.

He's playin' you and your bein' easy yo...

Someone .. Nitroduck I think? responded to a question and I wish you could read his answer. It is so true and amazing. You are not only doing your relationship, but yourself harm worrying over him cheating and being jealous. You will become less and less attractive to him with that jealous attitude and the hassle of that baggage. You may want to be the one to "change" since that is a negative issue you are having. Him changing who he is .. well.. why are you even with him then if you cannot accept him? Being insecure in this loose moral world.. I get that.. trust me.. but you have to stop letting those fears rule you because in turn.. you want him to be ruled by them and that is not fair. My guy is a flirt. He has baby blues and a tight body.. trust me honey.. when we go places.. women standing next to their husbands drool outright over him and I want to smack em lol but you cannot be that wya. You will lose. Don't. Focus on love.. not negative stuff. .. or you will lose him and THEN realize he was not the one causing the problems. Been there years ago.. .. don't you do it and lose him. He made a commitment to you.

That's for you to decide... You're with him a LOT more than we are, and we're only hearing your side. You know you're a pretty jealous person. That, in and of itself can hurt YOU in any relationship. Apparently, you don't trust your fiance. Is this the way you want to live? You have to let him have friends or acquaintances of both sexes... Now-a-days, it's almost impossible NOT to. But do you really have a reason to be jealous of them? Does he spend evenings out with them or you? (or MORE out with them...?) What exactly sparks this jealousy? Just looking? Get used to it... men look... as do women. Now, to him... You say he does "little things bother you and hurt you so much", and he still does them, despite saying he will change. Don't count on his changing... It's possible, but not likely. He knows how to "push your buttons", obviously. Why does he continue to do so? Is it to START these arguments? Is this to create the mood for make-up sex? (Is this the only way he can get it? - Don't be mad - It's the way some people are.) None of this means he doesn't love you, nor does it mean you don't love him. What it means is you are NOT ready to get married. Until all these issues have been worked out to where both of you are happy with each other the vast majority of the time, you need to hold off on the marriage. If you can't handle the arguing... the fighting... or hold your own council (not "get into it") when you feel jealous, and things DO NOT change, it may be time to separate, at least for a time, until you both realize (if you do) how much the other means to you. Again... All of this is dependent on what you truly feel about him, whether you can trust him, and he can trust you not to "fly off the handle" unless he really does something bad. And, whether you can take him with his peccadilloes or not. Good luck. ;-)

It will never get better.

Pick your battles, let the little things that bother you go. A close friend of mine had a girlfriend and would say it was a similar scenario. Both her and him were I'd say physically attractive, but had no real substance to the relationship because it was based on what we usually base things on: sex. She too, was highly insecure to his faithfulness toward her, because other girls were constantly hitting on him. Her insecurity actually made the relationship worse. It takes a whole lot more to make things work than physical intimacy and a great orgasm. Build a foundation beyond the physical realm. What interests do you share together? Build on that. Substance, from the inside out, is the stuff that keeps relationships together, and it can be done. Forget the others that tell you to hang it up! 20 years here, and still gettin' it. Suck it up, comrades! You'll get this one a little later.

from what i've seen is that they do little things to see if you care, guys have a funny way of showing love. i know this because my man does the same thing it does get tiring blieve u me! but you have to think about it, regardless of the lil flirting and little shit, hes obviously in love with you if you guys are soon to be married. dedication is a strong part in relationships and if he wants to marry you then most likely hes in love with you. i dont know your guy's set up, but most likely he coming home to you every night! layin up with you every night sooo i say dont even trip its a phase.