A friend of mine is in a very troubled marriage (with 1 young child). Divorce has been mentioned. Love is still there, just not being shown. They have many issues. Is there anything that they can do to save their relationship? Serious answers please. Thx.
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VS Angel aka Mrs. Stealth Intelligence
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some sort of marriage guidance counselling might help.
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If the love is still there, there is hope for them. They need professional counseling to work through the troubles and they need to be strong and be there for the other as they work through them. Sometimes day to day life tends to take over people's lives and they forget that the most important thing in life is happiness and the people around them. Please wish them my best and tell them that love is worth the effort.
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I agree with the previously posted answer. With help, there is hope that your friends can save their marriage. Whether it be from a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, pastor, priest, support group, or employee assistance program, the best thing you can do is help them find professional help. Have them check with their employer[s] to see what their insurance benefits are as well as to ask for a referral to a professional who addresses their needs and is within their network of preferred providers. You can also encourage them reach out for help through their church, primary care physician's office, hospital, or community mental health center. Then...encourage them to commit to making the necessary changes to improve their relationship. Remind them that sometimes it gets worse before it gets better. Above all else... encourage them to surrender the fight between the battle of their ego's... or dance of death as often refer to it.....and....LET LOVE LEAD THE WAY! :) DC
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It doesn't sound good, VS. You say the marriage is "very troubled" with "many issues". It sounds to me as if they've both already thrown in the towel and are not on the same page anymore. If there were only a couple of things that caused problems, maybe they could be worked out if each of them were willing to compromise. How was the marriage before the child came into the picture? Is the husband jealous of the time the wife spends with the child? If that is the case, that will never be resolved. I know this from personal experience. Are they going to any professional for help? Has either of them changed significantly recently? Could there be someone else in the picture for one or both of them? You said that love is still there, just not being shown. Well, I think if you love someone it shows. Actions speak louder than words. Unless they're willing to work very hard, sincerely and honestly, I think it will be impossible to fix the breach. :)
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The first 5 years into a new marriage is generally the hardest time to adjust to each other. especially, if both are older and set in their ways. This is the adjustment period. most couples can make it, if they survive the first five years. Need more information on this couples issues. Newlyweds can make it, as long as the basic lover for each other, is there. Please give additional info.
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They should look for a marriage mediator. I use to do that for many years. It's not the same as marriage counseling, but focuses on re-forming the relationship through a negotiated process.
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Wow, that's really sad. If they love each other, there is still hope, but only if she changes her mind about some kind of counseling. He also needs to consider his child. If she's hitting her husband, it is only a matter of time before she hits their child. I think anger management would be a must before he should consider even trying to work on the other issues in the marriage.
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