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Depends on how you found out, and what he is doing to rebuild trust and demonstrate trustworthiness. In general, I'd say that it won't work long-term without some serious couples counseling for the both of you...and then only if he's VERY serious about playing it straight and being (and demonstrating that he is) trustworthy from now on. Being on a break from a relationship changes things a bit; however, your SISTER adds a whole other dynamic.
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Once a cheater always a cheater. Tomorrow, if he gets chance i will do it again if u have another sister. stay away from him. It gone be very awkward in the future when u will have a family gathering if u really love this guy and get married. you are always reminded of that bad incidence with your sister. U need to leave him and move on.
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it would not work, if you will go back with him you will not be able to trust him, where ever he go without you knowing or doesn't pick up the phone you will be thinking that he is cheating on you and those thoughts will kill you. not only that imagine if he cheated on you with your sister he is capable to cheat on you with any other girls. Trust me they always said they would change but thats not true
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do you really want it to work? It's bad enough knowing that he has slept with other people...but your sister? You know what they say...you have sex with anyone your partner has had sex with.
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Why would you want it to work??? its bad enough cheating but cheating on you with your sister is a totally different ball game. How did it come out after all that time and why??
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Yes and No =[ People change, but you will more than likely be some insecurity. Like if he goes on a trip alone with "the Guys" you might have a negative instinct. which will cause trust issues in the relationship, but yes he may have learned a guilt lesson. your insecurity will eat your relationshipa= alive unless you and your partener are comtent with being with eatch other 24/7 to make sure either of you are up to something, this typically doesn't work out. but if you personally feel he is going to change than you are the only one to determine wheather it is to workout. ihope all your troubles are solved =]
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ha this is sooo what im going through..Im just in his situation. I've been doing all a can to make him feel safe, gain trust back.I love him and would honestly never do anything to hurt him. and he wants to love me but i can see the mistrust and broken image of me. Let me know what happens
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Please try your hardest to be trusting and forgive him, I know this is dangerous but in order to develop a loving relationship you must be honest, compassionate and loving. Just the fact that he is doing absolutely everything he can shows to me that he knows he made a huge mistake, we all do, we're all human. Let him know that you are going to try your best to trust him again but that if he wants to go down that road then he must understand that if he's not completely honest with you... he's going to hurt you in ways that words cannot express. I like the other people's answers who suggested counseling, professional help is probably a great idea! I see you commented that you were willing to try it, good for you ;) Just remember that people change, as we go through life we generally grow spiritually and become better people, if you allow yourself to think that people don't change then you'll never trust him. (Think back to yourself 5 or 10 years ago and ask yourself how much you have changed... we all change.)
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What is wrong with this ppl? Do we not respect ourselves anymore? Your sister shouldn't even allowed that...girl that's so sad. I feel for you, I really do. You are always going to be insecure in this relationship. How are you going to feel at family functions when your sister, you and your bf are around? It would be uncomfortable...how do you know that they are still not sexing each other down? Blood is thicker than water...so I would get me a new bf.
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Well, I'd say It was three and a half years ago, and you were on a break. Little sketchy that it was your sister, it's up to you whether that makes it harder. I'd say the big issue here is finding out two years later. If you asked him when you got back together if he'd slept with someone else, and he lied, that's a bigger issue. If you just didn't think to ask until two years later... He's apologetic, it seems, so that's a point in his favour as well.
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Maybe.... Maybe not. Say by this, your 'boyfriend' cheated on you with your sister but then left her after a one night fling off... Girl i see why your insecure and I feel for you... If it feels like your relation ship is at a stressing point, it may be good to let go... I'm sure you could find someone better.
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Of course it can work. Let the past go.
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Okay, first of all, what kind of a sister would do that. But anyway, as long as you are sure that was the ONLY time it happened, it can work. Sometimes people make mistakes, and should be forgiven. You may never trust him completely again, but if you forgive him and love him and he never does it again, it can work. And at least you were on a break, so I don't think it technically counts as cheating. Did he tell you 2 years later, or did you find out some other way? He probably should have told you before you even made the decision to be with him again a few years ago...
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I cheated on my wife and got away with it. I'll never cheat again. I don't deserve pitty, but it's the hardest thing I've ever had to get past. The fact that he didn't "get away with it" may make your situation different. Doing something terrible can be a valuable learning experience. Of course it's also a costly way to learn. Take it from a guy - you have to trust him or you have to leave him. You don't want a guy you can't (or won't) trust and he will not stay with an untrusting girl for long.
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I was the guy in a similar situation (cousins) and it worked for us. We are no longer together for different reasons thou.
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