My current lady is beautiful, but she's gained about forty pounds over the last few years. It's affected us. I still love her, but I can't perform the way she wants me to. I love her, but am I wrong for not being as attracted to her as I once was?
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well if u still think she is beutiful then thats fine, i mean if she gain alot of weight, just talk to her about it if it's really bothering u, but if u really do like her and think she is beutiful then don't talk to her about it, and why would u even like her less u should like her becuase she is beutiul inside not out but i understand what u mean by saying that u are attracted less to her, but just give it time
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You my friend are an ass and she deserves better. If you are going to let something like a 40 pound weight gain affect how you used to feel about her then you don't deserve her. Love is not just about sexual and physical attraction. It's about how you feel when you are with that person and how you make them feel. If you truly love her as you claim you do then you will stop letting her weight gain affect you and continue to go on with your relationship the way you always have prior to the weight gain. If you are worried about the weight gain affecting her overall healtth then sit down and talk with her about it and express your concerns but if the only reason for those concerns is because she doesn't make you hard anymore because she's getting fat then you are an ass and she would be better off if you left her.
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In my opinion, that is a bit shallow and superficial. What about the inner person? If you are concerned about her health it is one thing, but it seems you are only concerned with outward appearances. If you can no longer perform because of a few pounds and she is not attractive enough for YOU..let her go. She will probably have no problem finding someone who will love her for WHO she is and not just for what she looks like. People do change over the years, you know....outwardly, anyway.
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asweetguy4u2know, PLEASE stop trying to score online brownie points by flinging insults. There's only so much that can be written when you have a 500 word limit. My relationship with my lady is fine, except for that part of it. I love her dearly, but I just can't do what she'd like for us to do on account of the weight gain (40 pounds is a lot, especially when you're as short as she is). She and I have discussed it, but we can't discuss it without her getting all heated and concluding what the American media makes every damned woman in America believes - if he loves you, he'll get a boner. Bullshit! Real life doesn't work that way! I've spent a great deal of my life with attractive women. Okay, how's this: HOW DO I REPROGRAM MYSELF TO PREFER DRASTICALLY OVERWEIGHT WOMEN!?! Better question?
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listen, almost all the girls are gonna tell u that ur being selfish and shallow but you still love her and that PROVES you are not shallow. You are willing to except that you are the one who is not performing and you are portraying a humble attitude towards the issue. In my opinion my man, you are right on where ur supposed to be. Your wife deserves you and you deserve to make the best out of those intimate moments. So, although im sure u wont, dont ditch her. Just help her through her problem. Go out for a little jog together, work out together, even go on a diet together. It could improve your health and make for a better lifestyle for both of u. Good luck pal.
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