I gave my husband of 10 years a threesome with my best friend, now I want to have one with a man. How can I ask?

You just...ask. Simple as.
Just over dinner one night (no, not the one you invited your parents to...) or a bottle of wine when you're both snuggled on the sofa. Just ask him "you know how we did that thing and we both really enjoyed it... how about..."

Alternatively try renting a porn film or buying a book with a 2 guy/1 girl threesome and watching/ reading it together and bringing it up that way. Sometimes its easier to bring something up when its not associated with you directly- if you show how much it excites you, he should get the hint.

You might want to make it clear to him that you don't expect him to have sex with the other guy (that puts a lot of men off)

Hope this helps. Remember the condoms.

I would say if you allowed him to have a 3 some, what would possibly stop you from requesting one?

Just be open & honest with your husband. If he understands then great. If not then atleast you know where you stand. Just remember that anything like this can go bad. It could end your relationship, or make it better.

Just tell him what you want, simple as that. You seem a fairly sexually liberated couple so go for it. Good luck.

Well, how did he ask? Just try discussing how you enjoyed your threesome and try and suggest it. But the trick is to make him think it was his idea. And if he doesn't go for it, then theres not much you can do. But if you did that for him, he should be willing to do this for you. And I agree with lady fuschia, make sure he knows you don't want him to have sex with the other man. Threesomes are a risky business but good luck!!

You can say "my turn". I do agree though, that you have opened a door here. Its kinda like a guy that would love to see his woman with another woman, but if you mentioned him being with another man, he would say NO! Sometimes, things like this are one sided.

We live in a world of double standards, so you can 'just ask' but don't be surprised if he treats you as a worthless 'wh*re" from then on out. This is a normal way for a man to behave. Remember. We are put on this earth to please their every whim and sacrifice our own desires in the process.

well, while i'm not saying i agree with your idea of a 3some when married in the first place. i'm inclined to say "fair is fair" you let him, not he should let you...that sounds dirty and degrading, yes, but it makes sense.

Like some of the others, I agree, you need to be honest about what you want. Heck how can your husband object after he's done the deed? And agreed, make it clear that YOU want both of them and don't expect the 2 guys to do each other!

Hiya!

Just be honest with him. Explain to him what you want from the experience and deal with his feelings on the subject.

Hope this helps!!!

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If he says no, have another 3 some with your best friend and hubby and have your best friend use a strap on on you.

You can't expect him to do any gay or bi stuff if he's not into that, but if you gave him a threesome, then it's certainly not unreasonable to ask for one for yourself.

Try talking to him when he's aroused. Talk about the threesomes that you've had and how much it aroused you, then tell him that you have a fantasy that you'd like to have two men. Run with it as a fantasy at first, then ask him to make it a reality.

Just ask him - he might want it also, but afraid to ask you.

Easy! Just be honest and make your feelings known. Remember, no strings just pleasure.

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We still live in a man's world sexually. They feel so free to fantasize about girl-on-girl and expect it anymore. I sincerely doubt your husband really cares enough about your fantasy or your feelings to welcome another man into your bed. Would you really like to see your husband with another man, or are you just trying to get even? I think you should quit while you're ahead.

If you did a threesome with him and your best female friend I can't IMAGINE him objecting to doing a threesome with you and another man - maybe HIS best friend ! I would just TELL him you want to experience a threesome with him and another man ! If MY wife told ME she wanted to do a threesome with me and another man we'd start looking for another man as soon as she finished getting the words out of her mouth ! In fact we've already TALKED about it - we do FANTASIZE about it - and we've even gotten to the point we "simulate" it using her dildo ! If she ever decided she wanted to do a REAL threesome we'd DO it - and I'd make SURE it was a pleasurable experience for her - one she'd want to do again with some frequency ! Best wishes for you and YOUR husband - I have to admit I envy the fact that you're WANTING to do one ...

I agree with some of the OTHER responses - just ASK HIM ! ( Or tell him how much the idea if it turns you on ! ) You've shared HIM with another WOMAN - it's HIS turn to share YOU with another MAN! He very well may "want it" TOO but is reluctant to approach YOU with the idea ! I wish MY wife would ask ME to do a MMF threesome - I'd make it happen ! ( The fact is I've already TOLD my wife I'd like to do a threesome with her and another guy - we "simulate" it using her dildo but she's not ready to do it for REAL yet ! Hopefully SOON - the "simulation" turns us BOTH on - we even "simulate" performing ORAL on "him" together while we're having sex - it is SO hot - and we BOTH have pretty intense orgasms just FANTASIZING about it ! I can only IMAGINE how intense the orgasms would be if we were REALLY "doing it" ! ) Good luck to you ...

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U should talk to him about it if u want.at least u know where u stand.maybe it would be easier to swallow if it didnt involve a friend or someone who would be in ur life on a daily basis afterwards

Threesomes can be a great way (My Opinion) to enhance a sexual relationship....from experience though..I'd say picking it to be your Best Friend may have been a mistake...I hope you all talked it over a BUNCH before it happened...good luck to you!
If you want a threesome with a male and your man...just like before..discuss it openly..and make sure ALL parties involved know it is just SEX and not about feelings....it takes a very mature relationship for this all to work...and from experience I can tell you it DOES work..if handled properly. NO HATE comments please....Geesh...

talk to him most guys say no till they think about it. i my self when i got asked by by wife nearly screamed no. but the seed was planted and now i love to see my wife with another guy. but she wants to see me with another woman and thats harder to sort out. lol

I think that it's very unhealthy and will eventually lead to jealousy, nervousness, and finally anger. It's good that you are so comfortable about a controlled-orgy like event, but you both should have gotten all that out prior to marriage. Marriage is something reserved for people that love each other so much that you shouln't have to feel like you need another man/woman to satisfy your sexual cravings.
This has nothing to do with morals or values, but has everything to do with the strength of togetherness in a marriage. You shouldn't have committed yourself to another and made vows if you were planning on doing this. Whatever happened to true love anyway? If you really loved someone and they really loved you, you wouldn't need to do stuff like that. My answer to this would be to get a divorce and get all the fun out of your system...in the end...someone will get hurt. You probably want to do this because you want to make him feel as you did after you got tagged, the end result will only be insecurity, depression, crying, and anger..do what need to to do but remember that we all having a ethical compass in us and my view on this is that it's wrong and now you will forever have a tainted view ontrue love. I apologize for the harshness but lets bluntness is a virtue at times like these. I think you and your husband should seek immediate therapy and counseling because lief will be very rough very soon and someone WILL get hurt. Good Luck...don't do it, rise above!

Be opened honest and just ask him straight out. You've given him his fantasy-come-true and this is yours. I think that he'll see that it's a good thing and you'll see that it's has the potential to satisfy you as you've never been before.

Tell that you should like to try the one dick is inside you and you play with the other one situation. And also an other dick in you after the first is cummed.

Why dont you just ask him to do the 'deed' with one of his friends? Just make sure you use protection or get his buddy or another guy tested for STDs & such!

Also ask him if he would be ok with you getting 'plowed' by another guy? If not than dont do it unless your gonna get divorced!

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