it's not wrong to love someone even though you guys can't be together.. was s/he the first person that gave you an impression of love? personally for me.. i've loved someone for 6 years.. compare to you its nothing.. but 6 years later when we talked again I realise how much i love him.. we never really had any physical contact with each other either.. its just that special aroma that person gives off that no one else can i guess.. now you're married, but still you seem like you love this other guy, be sure not to confuse your love you have for your husband whom you chose in which you will spend practically the other half of your life with.. to someone that you probably didn't choose over during those 23 yeaers and more. if it was that kind of deep love you guys had for each other.. why didn't you guys try dating? instead of loving someone you just cannot have..

It sounds like you are both making the right decision. Let it go. Move on. Don't watch Casablanca.

"How could anyone have a deep love for another if you never kissed or dated...?" Quite easily. Love doesn't require physical intimacy, nor does it require made-for-TV movie-of-the-week melodramatic romantic longings. Love is an emotional state built upon compatibilities and affinities of psyche and intellect. "Is it wrong?" That's a tough question. If the question is actually stating "I love this person, but I've never kissed or dated them, and don't need to. And I am perfectly happy and in love with my spouse. But I don't understand how it happened." then that is a platonic love. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. A strong platonic friendship is not wrong, and as a matter of fact, ought to be celebrated. The world could always use more love. That's kind of a hippie non sequitur, I know. If the loving friendship is not hidden from either spouse and doesn't interfere with either marriage, then there is absolutely nothing wrong. Remember: the clearest sign that there's nothing wrong with a situation is the absence of the desire to conceal it. However, if the question is stating "I've never kissed or dated this person, and now that I am married I know I never will be with this person, and that is a source of regret and a burden to me," then it is wrong. If there are feelings of longing of either an emotional or physical nature (or of course, both), then the situation goes from being "good" to being "bad" as the longing desires take the nature of the relationship from "platonic" (which is good) to "unconsummated" (which is bad) because that implies that there is some need to conceal one's feelings from one's spouse, and that is not only a deceit, it is also an infidelity, even if only in one's heart or mind (which makes it no less unfair to the spouse(s) concerned). So the answer as to whether it's right or wrong depends on what is really being asked. Only you know what is truly in your own heart and mind. Best of luck.