I was never spanked as a kid, but i have three kids, and sometimes i think they really need to get a spanking. my daughter lacy told my mom that i spanked her last night, and now my moms giving me a hard time about it. should i stop spanking them?
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audrey g
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Do what you feel is right. Of course, don't go overboard, but that really goes without saying. I was spanked as a child, and I needed it. All of us try our own course. We have motherly instincts because we are mothers; just listen to yours and you will be alright.
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Yes. You are teaching her to hit.
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Everything you do is an example for how your children should and will act. Unless you want them to respond to unfavorable situations with violence, do not use it.
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First of all - It really isn't any of your mom's business, right? She had her turn, now it's yours. Now, about spanking. I think that there are better ways to teach someone right from wrong. Do you know any moms who seem yell ALL of the time? (Do you remember any teachers who yelled a lot?) Yelling (like spanking) is effective maybe the first few times, then it just becomes the norm. I know that my mother smacked me across the face three times in my entire life. I deserved each one and learned from each one. If she had done it more frequently it definitely wouldn't have had the same effect. Time-outs for little ones are incredibly effective. Not LONG time-outs, 5-10 minutes. Enough to stop the behavior, then a brief discussion about the behavior and an apology from the child. The time-out needs to be given immediately when the behavior is happening (a warning may be given too). Once the time-out/deiscussion/apology is over you need to let it go and not hold it over their head. Remember, the action was bad, not the child.
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Yeah, I think you should! It's physical violence. You are teaching your kids that it is okay to solve problems with hitting. I would think as an adult you would know there are better ways than spanking to teach a child they did something wrong.
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I think spanking should be a last resort. I think its all about how you go about the spanking. It needs to be done when you are NOT angry. And the reason why, should be calmly explained.
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Yes, you should stop. Spanking is almost always done in anger, arises out of a loss of control, and sends a negative message to the child. I confess to having stooped to this form of discipline, but I am not proud. It isn't effective and it can be damaging. I've since discovered parenting with "love and logic", which fosters respect for parent and child by teaching through natural consequences. No yelling, bribing or spanking. Give it a try. www.loveandlogic.com
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You deserve a spanking for making up bogus questions and posting them here. I have a paddle waiting for you.
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look up my other answer about spanking
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Physical punishment, when used in a *LIMITED*, precise and non-excessive manner, can teach valuable lessons for a disobedient child. I was not abused; I was spanked twice in my life by my parents, and my hand slapped once. Perhaps this would have got my parents thrown in today's jails (and my life IRREVOCABLY changed), but I look back and do believe my punishments were justified (stealing being the cause). The caveat to all this is that I was also taught other valuable lessons at different times... of respect for elders, women, and patience. Today's society is so spring-loaded to dial 911 for child abuse that a simple spanking is feared not by the children... but by the PARENTS. So let's take a big-picture look at children today... they are coddled, empowered, and exceedingly disrespectful. Is this just an old geezer talking? No, I'm 31 and merely cognizant of where the limitations of discipline have brought us today. I'm sure I'll get flamed/trolled for this answer, but whatev. Suck it, Trebek! ;)
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Dont answer this person people, they are a weirdo who wants to talk about spanking kids.... !
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Your Mom might feel guilty she didn't spank you!
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my parents never spanked me either, and i think that children should not get spanked unless it has to do with a life or death situation. i think the best way to disaplane a child is with good comunication, grounding tequenics and/or taking away privlages. but when it comes to spanking and when u have tried everything else and they still don't understad and for instance if u showed them right from wrong and for some reason the child still tries to play with fire or crosses the street with out lookin or whatever life or death sistuation comes across then spanking should only be used for last resort to let them know that u really do care and that u are very consern about their safty.
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No. for generations, children have had spankings for correcting a wrong. The key is for the spanking to not "cross the line". I was corrected, as a child, by spanking. so was my wife and our children and now our grandchildren. Time out and standing in a corner only gives a child time to think about how they got caught. it does not work. There is nothing wrong with a swat on the butt. It does not hurt that much, but is a definite wake-up call to a child.
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wah wah wah. ever since the anti-spanking movement children are getting more and more out of hand. I wonder how many children who shoot up eachother or teachers(or plan to like those 10 3rd graders) got spanked as punnishment (for it to be a punnishment it must hurt other wise it is not unpleasant.) there is a difference between inflicting pain to discourage behavior and beating because you are angry. you are the parrent, not your mom... not the people on here. ask yourself, is this going to help him learn obedience. yes I know I am going to get a lot of downrates for this. but "spair the rod, spoil the child" anyone who disagrees can watch the episode of "the baby borrowers" where they were caring for teenagers. when the real parents picked up their teens. one teen was the most out of line... his mom spoke like the antispankers/antiyellers. kids need discipline.
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I rarely use spanking with my daughter but shes rarely bad enough for it. I only use as a last resort when shes not acting right.
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I have read that spanking (one swat only, on the behind) is an effective discipline for toddlers. Any younger or older, then you're teaching your children to deal with their problems by hitting. Children older than toddler-age do best with time outs or having special toys taken away because they have better reasoning skills and can then learn to make better choices based on this reasoning. FYI- I was spanked as a youngster, but not often.
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First we ought to establish who's in charge here: you or mom? (Is boyfriend or husband in the picture at all?) Then this is the person where the buck stops and if doesn't, you'll continue to have these and other related problems. The child(ren) will NATURALLY gravitate toward the most lenient adult asking them to "correct" the one who's correcting them. The issue here is raising up children who know right from wrong, and this is far more honorable than feelings and opinions. You're correcting them because you love them, be confident in that. If mom is domineering over you, we need to go back to the first degree: Who's in charge? It ought to be boyfriend/husband, and you. Mom is #3. If you're dependent on mom, then she needs to know that you're the first to correct your children. Raise up those kids to know right from wrong, and don't let anybody tell you different. It is the best thing you could ever do for them, and they'll thank you later. Please do it Gods' way, it is right!
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