My boyfriend has cheated, lied, been a drug addict and abused me. Why do I still love him and beleive him when he says it's going to get better?
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Because you are only focusing on your feelings. You are not thinking logically about the situation. Sometimes that happens when you are young. Here's a good test: Pretend that you are older and your 17 year old daughter comes to you and says "My boyfriend has cheated, lied, been a drug addict and abused me. But I still love him and I think it's going to get better." Honestly, what would you say to your daughter if she came to you with this?
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Because you are a hopeless romantic and a fool. You deserve better than that. You can't save him from making bad choices no matter how badly you want to.
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You don't really love him, you're just infatuated with him. Why would you love someone that treats you like dirt?
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sometimes we don't want to stop believing. But don't feel bad, it means that reguardless of how he treats you you love him back. Your a sweet, tender, and wonderful person for that and he doesn't deserve you. I think you need to find someone new to believe in.
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because you have some serious lessons to learn. You'll get it eventually.
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Man!, been there.. Done that, it seems like I'm reading myself back on time, well you can't stop what you feel, till you get tired of it i mean exhausted, maybe the day you see him with your own eyes that he loves somebody else and not you, hearing about it don't hurt that much but maybe seen it will brake your heart, maybe you need a wake up call. you trust he is going to change 'cause you love him you're kind of blind, and it might not stop your vicious circle till you make a decision, determination and get stronger, willing to take the next step, knowing that you deserve to be treated better than that, 'cause you deserve it, you're good but he can't see it 'cause he is too busy on his business, and you should yours going on he is not the only man on earth trust me, stop trying to change him if he doesn't love himself how do you expect him to love somebody else? you're worth it, think 'bout it. gool luck
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You better take care of yourself... drug addicts no matter what they say would do the opposite...through in the toughest challenge at him - ask him to rehabilitate himself and if his feelings towards you are strong enough he might, else you better look for better options
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cheat, lie, abusing people physically and mentally - these are the traits of a drug addict and no matter what they promise they would do the opposite. Throw a challenge at him - ask him to rehabilitate himself, if his feelings are strong for you, he might, else you need to keep him away from your thoughts as nothing good ever could be expected of a drug addict..
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Have you done anything to help him with his addiction? The first step would be to personally take him to a Narcotics Anonymous meeting EVERY DAY for 90 days. Don't skip a single day. Sit there with him and just listen. If he continues with his drugging after attending 90 meetings in 90 days drop him because he's not serious about stopping and things will only get worse. Here's the homepage link to find meetings in your area http://www.na.org/
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Because you have self-esteem problems, aren't very independant, and are probably depressed. you should leave him and live more positively. Once he realizes he lost you, maybe he'll straighten up too.
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I don't know, Hon. Maybe it is something to discuss with a therapist.
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There could be many different reasosns. Maybe you have a dependency issue, was there a histoy of substance or physical abuse in your family growing up, many times those things can factor in. If you answer no to all of those questions above, I have no idea what would cause you to cling to something that sounds so terrible
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You're what we call a sucker. Seriously, let yourself go of this. It's a classic situation, and it only really gets better if you just let go.
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Because you are codependent... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependence
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Better question.......Why do you believe you deserve to be treated like you are nothing?????????? I highly suggest you get counseling! Really! You are worth sooooooo much more, BUT YOU have to believe it! Get help. There is no shame in reaching out for help! The shame is NOT reaching out. Good luck!:)[[hug]]]]
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You're a masochist. You would be bored out of your mind if he actually did get better.
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many women stay in abusive relationships mainly because they have a small self esteem and or they are co-dependent, the truth is you can still be on your own and have a better life then with a man who doesn't respect you.
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cz maybe u still belive that every thing will get better cz u thinkin with ur heart not ur mind
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Because you don't really love him. Like all victims of abuse you are emotionally dependent on him. Of course, it won't get better, and one day you will wake up. I hope that day comes before the price you have to pay is too high.
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