Dude, think about having a friend who is an adult dating a child...I can't stand that and I would seriously not be able to stand your situation either. But your friend is not the one doing the abuse.

hmm not really i think you have done all you could and the only thing left to do is wait and hope she realizes how bad and damaging the relationship is for her, i think you can still care about her but if it is painful for you to stay close to her the best thing you can do is stand back for a little while, imo.

no u feel helpless and its understandable. think of it this way, would u saty friends with someone in active addiction? who can not stop drinking or using drugs? they cant help it, (speaking as a recovering addict)and neither can ur friend. its unfortunate shes in that position but u should still remain friends with her, just let her know how u feel and that u need to take a step back so u arent effected directly from her situation she chooses not to leave.

You cannot help fix a problem if the one in the center of it isn't ready to be fixed. Taking a bottle away from an alcoholic isn't going to stop them from drinking, you see? I wouldn't disavow my friendship with an addict, but the thing is....some people are best loved from a distance. It's the same with your friend for now. You must also preserve yourself.

No, there's nothing wrong with this at all. You cannot help somebody who does not want to be helped and, while undoubtly tragic for your friend, it must not become tragic for you as well. At the point when her problem starts to have a negative impact on your life, outlook and well being, you must step back from it all. This is not being uncaring or selfish in the least. Instead, you are simply doing what she should be doing, looking after yourself and protecting yourself from such negative experiences. It is down to you to look after and protect yourself and her suffering must not become your suffering as well - this would be counter-productive to say the least. Know that you have tried your best and that, I'm afraid is all that you, or anybody, can do. Nobody saves anybody else, people save themselves. She has her own reasons for staying and stay she will until she decides otherwise - and there is nothing you can do about it (and god knows, you have tried for 2 years). Put some distance between you and live your life and don't let her life and choices colour your own. Don't make the mistake of thinking that all or most relationships are like her's, because they are not, not at all.

You and I seem to have lots in common! I definitely know what you mean, I have been there myself, I think a lot of people have. Your friend just doesnt want to help themselves... they are comfortable in the relationship or maybe scared. You try to be there for them and they call you at all hours, crying, needing rides, needing advice, etc. It breaks your heart after a while seeing them like that and its not something you need to be exposed to for such a long period of time. I think you should cut it off if she wont help herself out of it. Also, sometimes things come around full circle. The hardest thing I've ever done was let my high school best friend go because of the same situation. I couldnt handle the stress any more so we lost touch, mainly my fault. We just recently got back in contact and our friendship is stronger than ever now that we're adults. Life has a funny way of making things right. :)

No it is not bad not to want to stay friends with her, I've been in a similar situation and it wasn't nice to watch what was happening and you shouldn't have to go through it too I think it's a tough call though especially if you're the only one that knows as I was in my situation, nobody else was looking out for her if I didn't stick around. Then again, if I had told her I couln't hang around and watch her do this, would she have realised how she was hurting other people by staying with him and left him sooner? I guess I'll never know now but luckily she ended her realationship with the abusive guy - Good Luck with wahtever you decide. I know it won't be an easy decision.

I had a friend that, for years, never wanted to heed the advice I tried to give her. The thing was that Iwas the only one of her friends who was telling her what she NEEDED to hear, everyone else would tell her what she WANTED to hear. Why would she listen to my lone voice od dissent, when all of her self-centered friends said things that affirmed her [poor] actions. This was all back when they only had one kid. Now she is onto child number three, and openly cheats on her husband (who isn't a bad guy, they just weren't right for eachother). Some people simply won't do things unless they are coerced.

Not at all. Maybe you're drained because you've tried to help and to no avail. In my experience, a person can get engulfed in the negative influences and maybe she's just been pulled almost to the bottom - to where it's consuming her. You can stay friends but see if you can draw your communication away from that topic and get your friendship back to where it used to be when you were friends to each other rather than just feeling like your making all the sacrifices.