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You need to communicate the situation to your parents. You should be mature and frank, and tell them the whole truth. You are probably dealing with more emotions than logic at the moment and they will be able to step in and assist you to set aside the emotion and look at the situation logically. If for no other reason, you need to to inform your parents so they can help you decide how to deal with the situation before rumors start spreading in the church. If you keep your mouth shut you risk the very real possibility of the Youth Pastor being more seriously harmed. He has a job at stake -- you need to come clean.
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He's going to jail!! The man is stupid.
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Talk to your folks. Tell the truth. If the police get involved - tell them the truth. This man took advantage of you. You ought to find another church where they teach that messing with a married man is wrong.
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I'm very sorry this happened. But what you do is simply tell the truth. He's already in trouble, no matter what you say or do. He was wrong in pursuing a relationship with you, both because of his age and his marital status. He's an adult and knew this. In his position as Youth Pastor, he should never have let your relationship progress to romantic love. Even without your age differences, he is/was committed to someone else in marriage. You're learning a tough lesson that married people of any age are not 'free' to enter into romantic relationships and that (for many reasons) you are better off dating others close to your own age until you are of legal age to keep your dates out of jail.
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It's too late to worry about not getting anyone in trouble. One or both of you should have thought of that, especially he should have. And he should be in trouble for adultery, for you being only 16 and because he was in a position of trust, especially in a church setting. Sorry, but just tell him to confess to his wife and anyone else he needs to, to step down from being a Pastor and coming clean. Hopefully he won't get into too much legal trouble. This is why counseling the opposite sex should NEVER be done one on one. At no time should they be alone with someone of the opposite sex as it could open the door to rumors and emotions that are not in the best interests of many people. It's just not safe.
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I told the truth, it was hard but I had to tell everything and he denied EVERYTHING. He sat there acting like nothing happened, making me look like a lying fool. I'm no longer in love w/ him, I can't believe I let someone like that in my heart like that. My family and I are leaving the church/school and he's still there. I can't believe he looked in my eyes and denied every single thing!
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You have to first realize that in your 16 years your parents only interest has been in your well being. What your doing is not right however, at your age your going solely by what you feel. The person that should know better is your youth pastor.
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Confess and be at peace with yourself and God first... Don't waist your years making regretful mistakes... Learn from them and progress from it. you have a long ways to go yet. Besides, I wouldn't want to hear about it in the News.. Learn from them and progress from it. you have a long ways to go yet. ;)
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It is men like this that give religious figures a bad name. He is a pedophile and a bad man. Believe it or not he manipulated and took advantage of you, even if there was nothing physical involved it was wrong. He needs to be removed from his position in the church so he won't do it to any other girls.
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Confess to the Pastor because you are being used by the Youth Pastor and he has no intention of leaving his wife. Years from now when you are older you will realize that you were being used but right now what you think is love is not.
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he is a pig and I hope he goes to jail for what he done, aside from the fact that he is married he is a pastor, someone the community is supposed to look up to as a role model. where are you i want to make sure my kids are'nt around this so called youth pastor
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