There is a grief period people go through when they get hurt, no mater what degree they were hurt to. It can go like this: Shock Denial Anger Resolution Or it can go like this: Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Resolution Or it can go any way, really. Most people experiance feelings like this though, usually in succession. Anger is always there though. And most people forget to get angry. I know a story, a really good one. Here is it lol. This woman, her husband died when she was about 74. She lived for years, just not being able to accept it - she was depressed, anxious, worried, upset, unable to function. Someone suggested she go and see someone, a councellor/psychiatrist whatever, and when she did, that someone said to her 'have you been angry yet?' she said 'How could I be angry? He died, it was no fault of his own, how could I possibly get angry at him?' the someone said back, 'but he just left you, alone, in the middle of your life - how could this NOT anger you?' And she got angry. Really angry. A few months later, she was as she was before her husband died again. Of course, she missed him, but there was no depression or anxiety left. All because she wouldn't let herself get angry at him for dying. True story. So go look up what you can do to help yourself accept any hurting you are going through. And my words of wisdom - expectance is the only thing that ever lets you down. Never expect anything, never get let down. Karma does not exist. Just because you do good, does not necissarily mean 'the world' will bring good to you in return. Hard to accept, but it's dead true. EDIT: This was downrated 4pts. The category is anger. The question is asking how to get rid of anger. My answer couldn't have been more relevant. But whatever.

I believe the only way you can truly forgive someone is that you have Him within you, and He is the One who allows you to forgive them. He is also the one who gives you peace, so ask and He will give.

I don't have a magical answer for you. Here is a song that seems to put it nicely.

here is another great lyrical way to view forgiveness

For me it was something I heard on a Sunday morning, in church. If God can forgive us for soooo much, can we not forgive for sooo little? To compare the 2, I felt ashamed. I have carried soooooooo much anger, hate, and unforgivness, for those who have hurt me, all my life. It was like 50lbs came off my shoulders that day, I forgave people who didn't even know or care if they were forgiven. But I knew!

I usually envision murdering the person (guns, knives etc.) and then I feel better yo...;)

Oprah says.....that forgiveness is giving up on the idea that things could have been different. dr Phil says......you wont forgive the perpetraitor until you feel he knows just how bad he hurt you....