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by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on June 14th, 2008
no, I could not. Treating a child as a sexual object is a behaviour that I cannot understand.
by Midnighttoker on June 14th, 2008
No. Not even after i killed him.
by kourageous kitty on June 14th, 2008
no i could not!! it happened to me as a young child by my uncle. he is dead now he died in prison, which is where he deserved to be.
by crimp on June 15th, 2008
I work in a treatment facility for very young severely troubled children. Most of them have been sexually abused somewhere along the line. I see thier pain every day. The scars, the sexual habits they learn, the way they interact with other children and adults and the memories (even the things they don't remember; they just know things are not right), cripple thier ability to properly cope with normal day to day routines. I think it would be extremly difficult for anyone to forgive ANYONE (close relative or not)who abuses your child. I personally COULD NOT.I would NEVER trust that person around my child again. I might however, encourage this close relative (can't do much about strangers) to get help which this person obviously needs. He/she obviously has some underlying issues (possibly having been abused himself)that need intensive treatment. Someone elses child will be next. This whole issue saddens me deeply. Sexual abuse on children is running rampid.
by Pepper Potts on June 14th, 2008
Absolutely positively NOT!!!
by Angel of Music on June 14th, 2008
Well, I was assaulted by a family member I don't know what my parents views are but I am still raw about it. Nothing was really done about the issue. I was just taken away from her care. I was molested by a friend who lived next to my grandparents. So no I wont be able to forgive such a person, I would go out of my way to make sure that person never gains contact with another child again. Also that that person will get the highest punishment possible!
Stealing another persons childhood is something so loathing and awful I wouldn't even wish it to happen to my worst enemy.
by Namaste formerly future_health_educator on June 14th, 2008
Depends on your definition of forgive. Could I let go of the anger yes. Would I allow the person arround my child or any child that I was with NO. I was abused myself and I have let go of most of my anger towards that person. But when I have children they will not be around them.
by Captain Birdseye on June 14th, 2008
Not in a million years.
I think I could easily kill them. I know that's a very bold statement, but when you think about it- 'plead mitigating circumstances, get the charge reduced to culpable homicide, sentenced to 6 years, do 3 years, get on with my life with a clear concience'.
Doesn't sound so bad now, does it?
by SoPtAmEr on June 14th, 2008
fuck no!! that is just WRONG!! i wouldn't forgive ANYONE who would do that to ANYONE!!
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on June 14th, 2008
this is just one of my many reasons for not having children. it would be very hard for me to remain in a civilized state of mind if something like this happened to an offspring of mine. i would be able to go on with life but i would do everything to make sure the molester was punished.
by hazel1908 on June 14th, 2008
No, but I would be able to forgive myself for killing them. Someone who harms a child does not deserve to live on.
by Zandalee.Lonely.Lunatic.3yrs-here on June 14th, 2008
NO!! I could never forgive that! NEVER!
by stephduvall07 on June 14th, 2008
no
by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on June 14th, 2008
Unlikely. VERY unlikely.
by Galeanda on June 14th, 2008
Yes, but I would do it for myself, not for them. It doesn't mean that it was okay. It simply means I forgive them the pain and hurt and I have moved on and do not hate or harbor resentment.
However, they will never be near that child alone again.
by sawzaz on August 31st, 2008
Absolutely not,this is one I'd have to leave for God to forgive.I do not think their punishment is harsh enough!They've stolen so much from the children,innocence,trust,and so much more. I give so much credit to anyone who has gone through this and come out the other side.My Dad was molested by a priest when he was 5 and I believe it's the reason he is unable to be affectionate with his kids or grandkids& drinks to numb his pain.In a way his life was stolen...
by woodewise on August 31st, 2008
i would only forgive this man if he is trully asking for your heart filled forgivness. you have to know that the man who did this to your child is obviously very sick and was almost deffinatly abused or molested himself, and is living in a horrible horrible world as it is.your forgivness could verywell send him on the right path but of course, only you can decide.
by j ninja... on August 31st, 2008
Sure right after I killed them.
by Someguy on August 31st, 2008
Hell no.
by Anonymous on August 31st, 2008
no its is out of the question. They are all sick in the head.. and should be sent to prison for life
by bowlermommy07 on August 1st, 2008
Never. Especially since it was done to me by a close relative.
by DudeLer on June 14th, 2008
its odd that a question like this one, brings out hatred and murder and torture into the minds of the answerers. you who think like that are no better than the molester. I would forgive. My child probably wouldnt.
by Aphrodite loves Mentos on June 14th, 2008
Hell to the NO!
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on June 14th, 2008
No, but I would kill them with out a second thought.
by Occams Electric Razor on June 14th, 2008
absolutely not in fact it only makes it worse that it is a relative. I couldn't understand how a tranger could do it but a blood relative doing something like that would be such a horrible and sick betrayal I would probably kill them..I know it would upset me worse than if some random stranger did it.
by needtoknow on June 14th, 2008
No, I could never forgive that.
by Mastodon on June 14th, 2008
Hells no
by poopoo on June 14th, 2008
If you forgave them your giving them permission to do it to others. They deserve nothing stop forgiving them werethey forgiving when they were abusing a human? NO.
by Still breathing on June 14th, 2008
Never
by eric on June 14th, 2008
No!
by justme32 loves the weekends on June 14th, 2008
They would be just as dead as a stranger would be.
by Merfish on June 14th, 2008
No
by Lady Justice on June 14th, 2008
no not really because they had enough intelligence to have realized that I was trying to protect my child and they went out of their way to attack my child for their own pleasure. In the end, no, I would never forgive that.
by Colt COAT of Justice on November 30th, 2008
I cannot say that I could. The child is marked for life!
by Anonymous on November 29th, 2008
Hell no. And I hope no one would. Because it will happen again.
by SLIM257 on November 29th, 2008
HELL NO
by ladyshakespeare on November 28th, 2008
HELL FUCK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by quack is whack on November 28th, 2008
I would never speak to that relative again, and they would have no contact with my child ever, ever again.
Taking sexual advantage over a child, especially if it were my child, is one thing that I wouldn't find it in my heart to forgive someone for.
And I wouldn't care which relative it was, I would press charges and send them to prison.
by TERRYTUKER on November 28th, 2008
after i shot em
by laura0203 on September 10th, 2008
never ever! how could you forgive somebody who had hurt your own flesh and blood physically and emotionally and also made your child never forget something so hurtful and disgusting?
by briggette93 on September 3rd, 2008
no way
by jeanie16 on August 31st, 2008
never. there is nothing worse in life than an adult forcing their sick and depraved desires on an innocent child, it makes me so mad, finish them off as far as im concerned.
by Wickels on August 31st, 2008
Umm, No!
by Nursey loves the Sox on August 31st, 2008
I would find it extremely difficult. My belief in God tells me the right thing to do would be to forgive.....but wow..for someone to hurt my child?
by nitenurse on August 23rd, 2008
Hell no!
by nisha on August 10th, 2008
no way. They didnt respect you or your child
by Scrappy on August 2nd, 2008
no way. My neice molested my son 14 years ago and to this day I still haven't forgiven her and I probably never will. She took away my son's purity, and innocence and ruined the rest of his life. She recieved no punishement but my son will be punished the rest of his life. so I will go to my grave hating her and I will NEVER forgive her
by Bsweet. on August 1st, 2008
No Way!!! i cant forgive anyone hurting my kids.
by jessicameidinger on August 1st, 2008
NO WAY!!! My children are the most important in my life, they are my life. I couldn't even forgive a close relative for molesting any child.
by browncat on June 15th, 2008
No. You can't forgive someone who does that sort of thing. Somethings are just wrong and this is wrong ... in any and all ways.
I am doing a project about child abuse. Does anybody know any good films where a father or mother abuses his son or daughter?
by HayleyVenus07 on July 18th, 2010
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what causes paedophilia?
by lynnefisk on August 2nd, 2010
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If you are 15 year old girl datin a 12 year old boy is that rape and we was datin for 3 month the 12 year old boy was beatin u punch and tryin to rape u than get u pregnant
by miera123 on July 28th, 2010
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Would it be unconstitutional to pass a law requiring an application process & home inspection to have kids so as to prevent child abuse?
by Anonymous on June 22nd, 2010
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my 3 year old daughter acts very sexual, especially right before bed time. Should I suspect something is wrong?
by carter35 on July 8th, 2010
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Yes, it is incomprehensible. Thanks.
by NoMorph on June 14th, 2008
I can appreciate that BEN DAN cannot understand the behavior of treating a child as a sexual object, but the question was not addressed. "Could you forgive"?
by MIKCTR on April 22nd, 2009
I would find it very hard to forgive, so, I would have to say "No" I couldn't forgive him or her.
which is the first word of my original answer..."no I could not"....I think that addresses the question.
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on April 22nd, 2009