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I think he is lucky he is not my husband. I would have smacked him, I'm sure. You were hardly harsh on her. It's not like she only ever did this one thing.
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Misstarrie, I am so sorry to say this but I think you are WAY too good for this shithead that you married.
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I think he is in denial and is a BIG part of her problems. Hopefully , by the time he wakes up and pulls his head out of his @$$, she won't be dead . You are in my thoughts and prayers Misstarrie .
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You were actually too lenient, in my opinion. I don't know what he expects but being gentle and understanding doesn't cut it in these type of cases. You got to tell it like it is, being harsh even, or the message won't get through. I think you should have a deeper talk about shared responsibility in raising your kids, Misstarrie. What do you both find acceptable or unacceptable behaviour. Good luck.
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I don't think it was too harsh-but I also don't think that question will change her mind about anything. He's most likely taking thing out on you since he may feel vulnerable and not in control of the situation. He may want you to stay out of it-simply because she may enjoy defying you anyway. She may fire back more with you since you are the step-parent. As for getting her to stop-I think getting advice from a professional may be the best bet-try to find someone with a high success rate. Bring out the big guns now-before it's too late.
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I think that the situation deserved harshness and that your response was equal to the gravity of the situation. That is not to be tiptoed around, and playing "Good Cop, Bad Cop" with a kid encourages the bad behavior, or at least gives a confusing message about parenting style. He may be displacing his anger because he is so upset that she is doing this, but this is a serious issue and so the energy should clearly be directed on where it is needed the most right now.
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That dynamic is a closed shop, Misstarrie. She is a dopehead already and your husband is resentful of your telling it like it is. So how has anything changed? :) Happy Saturday! :) ((hugs))
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