Some things are degrading. She needs to enjoy the sex too. It isn't just about you. I'm sorry but that isn't negotiable. I bet if she had something you didn't want to do she wouldn't try to persuade you.

I agree, marriage is about making sacrifices...

Instead of trying to convince her to do something she doesn't enjoy, why not try experimenting and finding NEW things that you both enjoy? If she's open to adult films, maybe you could find some that show the things you enjoy that present women enjoying them in a non-degrading manner.

I think it depends on what it is. Sometimes people do need to sacrifice for each other to make things work, but you also have to step back and think, am I being selfish to ask this? Would you do something similar for her if you didn't like it? There are certain things I'm sure you just won't ever feel comfortable doing, and maybe this is something like that for her. It really depends on what it is I guess, and how important it is to YOU that she does it, and how much of a sacrifice it would be for HER if she did.

what are the certain things? curious minds... i would advise you not to be selfish. if something is degrading to your wife, drop it. dont make her do something she is not comfortable with. everyone has boundaries, and if you love someone, you respect those boundaries. however, if she has a lot of sexual inhibitions and sees fairly common sex acts as "dirty", maybe she might need therapy. in the meantime, you can always fantasize. and there's a million things under the sun you could do with her otherwise...

If a woman is uncomfortable, then you dont do it. I can not understand, how you would have a problem with that. The thought, that you want her to do it, anyway, is disturbing. If you truly love someone, you would not want them to feel that way, or want them to do things that are against their beliefs. To me, you sound selfish and uncaring. How could you enjoy sex, knowing she is uncomfortable? Sex is supposed to be an expression of your love, not a required activity.

Hi Anonymous. I know you want practical advice and the other people commenting are not getting it. Here are my two pennies... Make sure that you only attempt to get close to her private parts after she has taken a bath and she expects to have sex soon after. That way she KNOWS her private parts smell good. Better yet, let her know before she takes the bath that later in bed you would like to try WHATEVER, be explicit, and that you promise to stop if she feels unconfortable. Make sure that you only attempt something new after she is completely enjoying sex with you and she is IN THE MOOD. Make sure the room is very dark or completely dark. Make sure there is some background noise, like music or a loud fan. Make sure that when she says STOP you don't insist because the feeling of conflict will be permanently associated with you trying WHATEVER you wanted to try during sex. The trick is that WHATEVER you are trying new MUST be associated with pleasurable memories dude. These are just a few tips my friend. LISTEN to what she is saying. Many times we don't understand the problem because we miss the small hints that women use. We guys are practical and straight forward. We speak what is on our mind. Is she delicate, sensitive woman who is afraid of a gazilion things? Everything stresses her? You like her because she is feminine. That is part of being feminine.

get a life people,the man is trying to save is marriage.God said that the woman is made for the man not the man for here.He is the KING in his marriage do you understand what i am saying.do you know that 75% of marriages are divorce because the female cant handle Gods law.so for if she does not summit to him the way he wants. then he has the right to divorce her and find a new wife.bottom line for man is if she cant fill your needs leave her.and find someone who can.

Well sir, I find my self in the same boat and now I have decided that I will no longer cater to her wants and suppress my own. If your wife won't compromise, burn the bridges, kill everything and take what you want where you can get it. Find a woman that will be a partner and tell you wife to get fucked else where. You will only be happy when you make your self happy. I just told mine to get the fuck out and I'll call back the woman that called me yesterday. She wants to make me happy and you should find the same... Scorch the earth and make all those who use you rue the fucking day they met you. Everyone says that this kind of behaviour is self destructive, but I put to them this; is it more self destructive to take what you want and be happy for the rest of your life, or suffer the indignity of a selfish partner that only fucking cares for themselves. I put it to you that any woman arguing this is worried that their partner will wake up and show them that laws and rules are social constructs. Without those constructs they would be used the way they have been using men. Further, I put it to you that the entire system is biased. How come I can be taken advantage of by a woman when I'm drunk and it's my fault. Why do they have special privilege. I've done nothing but be a gentleman my entire life and now I tired of being walked over. I vote we end suffrage until they volunteer to be equals. I say no to being "hen pecked". I say if my female friends can fight beside me, then we should be able to fight like equals. I say if a woman can talk to me like the guy I'd go into combat with, they should also expect that I'd head-butt and stomp the shit out of them the same way. I've met one woman that could throw down, she also was a good person. the rest can fuck off. Do what makes you happy.

Help her to see if from your perspective by turning the tables. The very next time there is something she truly enjoys you doing with her but that you don't like doing (e.g. shopping, a hobby, whatever) refuse to participate. Tell her that if she pressures you, she's being selfish in wanting to force you to do something that you find uncomfortable. Maybe she'll get the message.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. What you need to do 1st is find out WHY she finds them deplorable and horrible. Then once you know why, then you can come up with counters to logically show why her belief is maybe suspect. Then you can try to incorporate elements of those things in your boink sessions one teaspoon at a time. Show her it is not as bad as she think. You never want to make it feel as if you are forcig her to do it for your own jollies and that she will get nothing from it but a bad feeling.

Offer a trade. Do something she wants you to do that you hate IF she does something that you want her to do that she hates. You both might find that it's not so bad after all. If she's unwilling to sacrifice for you, even though you are willing to sacrifice for her, stop making those sacrifices, and give her a taste of her own medicine. If that doesn't work, call it quits.

Certain people I was willing to do anything in bed, but like with my ex, I wasn't. Somethings felt degrating with him, but not with my current husband. Maybe it is the level of comfort she has with you or just certain things make her feel cheap and used. If that is the case, I would let it go. I wouldn't want to put someone I loved in a position to feel that way (cheap and used) just for my pleasure.