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  • When he goes to work, so do you. When he comes home, you are still at work and just starting your "second shift". Also, does he help you at all with the kids when he is home? Has he ever had to do a full day with them? Perhaps you need to schedule a day away for him to get the real picture about what you do. Or, if he is the kind who responds to having things laid out, sit down and write out what you do each day and the times. Keep a journal for a few days and share it with him. Or make a family chore chart and diligently mark your boxes off so he has a visual of how much you do. This is actually a common problem - Best of luck to you.
  • You could always tell him that you will trade a day with him, I have to kids of my own one is 5 and the other is 18mths so I know what its like.. I give up with cleaning certain things or rooms when my youngest is around as it just goes back to the way it was within mins no secs...
  • I have one son and my husband acts like your husband too. As if he thinks I am a superwoman. I even do general cleaning in the house and he still complains for a single little thing. I tell him to go to Iraq and fight for our freedom than to make a battle in our own house over simple matter. I sometimes tell him that if he complains then do something about it. He can clean too. He is not excused from doing the household chores when he comes home. When he realized that I will not accept his attitude then he just have to accept the fact and deal with his own emotions. I sometimes do not get it, when someone makes a mess, he or she should clean his or her own mess. Why wait for other person to clean it? I think that is crazy. :D
  • I'm sorry, but he will never understand unless and until he has to go through it himself. Otherwise, keep expecting this behavior. He truly cannot understand until he tries it for himself. I'm sorry you have to go through that, but be happy that your kids have a good mother to raise them. :)
  • I will gaurantee that he has it easier at work then you do at home...............You should'nt have to explain it....Maybe being to tired to have sex will help explain......
  • Now, I'm serious, tell him you want to swap roles for a week. I'm so positive that'll work that I'm willing to put all my money on it. Lucky I physically can't, but I would if I could.
  • pretend you're "going to work" on the weekend...leave it to him to do what you do every day....adjust your laundry cycle so he has to do a few loads, too...don't hold back. Go *anywhere* for 8-10 hours, however long he's gone on his workdays....don't call, don't check in....make it happen. If he has no appreciation after a weekend then y'all have bigger problems.....oh, he should also perform whatever duties you do through the week while relaxes.
  • You sound as busy as me, I am a SAHM and a daycare provider. I do all the house work and other small jobs too. My suggestion, tell him to shut up and if you were being paid for all you do, you would make $200,000.00 yearly, I bet that is a ton more then his happy a*& makes. I am so tired of ppl saying we sit on our butts all day, I don't even think so. Start writing down all you do and the time it takes, then give it to him and tell him to call around and get prices, then pay you for what you have done and see what he says. Better yet make him do it. Make him stay home do all you do and you leave, I guarantee you he will will see it a different way, I have actually done this and it works! Good luck and I feel for you!;-}

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