A young woman, 19, has a child w/ a married man. Her parents help her get on her feet w/ a job and childcare. They do everything for her. Guess what? She is pregnant again 2 years later. What do the parents need to do? Should have done? Didn't do?
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They should have first of all told her that being together with a married man, is not something that should be done! Second of all, getting pregnant with the married man is not smart, but it happens and its her responsability. Her parents should have made her get a job and pay for her own life, so she realises that having a baby is a big responsability and not something easy where you just get money and jobs thrown at you but your parent. Ok is the 19 year old was really in financial trouble they could have offered her to stay with them...but helping her with everything is not a very responsible thing to do. She obviously didnt learn anything from it. But at the end...if she is a good mother to her 2 children, that is what counts, because its there lives at stake and they are the ones that will suffer the most. So if she lives her kids and is mother that tries her best than thats what is most important
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It's hard to walk in someone else's shoes, but if I were in that situation, I would do everything I could for the CHILD but not the mother. I think grandparents sometimes get confused as to what actually helps or hinders. I would sit the girl down, explain that her choices were not the best and that it's time she get's her act together. I would say I'd always be there for the babies but will not bend over backwards to help her. The children come first, and it's time the mom started acting like a mom. By the way, doesn't she get child support?
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For one quit being a crutch & let her learn to stand on her own 2 feet. Don't be a babysitter or give her the ability for so much free time to get pregnant again if she had to stay home & raise the kids she wouldn't be as careless to allow herself to get that way again. I would help the kids as much as I could but don't allow the kids to be away from her all the time, they don't feel the need to be responsible if they've got someone else taking care of their responsiblities. Good luck
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