My daughter just started kindergarten this year. Every morning she screams and cries and doesn't want to go. She makes a big scene when I pull up at her school. Any advice on how to make this easier on her and me?

Well, if she has been going for a while, maybe there is another child, teacher, or activity that scares her. Maybe you should ask the teachers how long she acts like that after you leave, if it is just a few minutes, I would not worry too much about it,, if it is for an hour or so, then I would look at the facilities and staff much closer.

Maybe you should TALK TO HER and find out WHY IT'S HAPPENING. It might be more useful than polling the audience completely blind. Just a thought.

Obviously there is SOMETHING about her kindergarten that she dislikes, you need to find exactly what this something is because it might be a reason for concern.

If it is found to be something normal that she needs to adjust to then ease her into it, try this. Praise her on days when she doesn't scream and cry, and also reward her and then gradually raise your standards for reward until she eases into it without a second thought.

If there is an actual cause for concern then you need to remove it right away or she'll begin to associate school with that very problem, which she may already be doing judging from her behavior.

I wish you the best of luck.

why not to visit on his new classmates house, let them play and talk, so that in school she got someone to be with that is familiar to her for her not to feel afraid and bored at school. . . it'll be better if a visit to her teachers house, so that she'll became familiar to the teacher. . .

Unfortunately this will take time. I was the same way over my mother. She has had a very close bond with you it seems. She is now leaving her comfort zone and is basically terrified! With time, she will see that Mommy will still see her before and after school and she will find out that school can be fun.

If this continues for a long period of time, then I would discuss this with the teacher and see how she is getting along while in the classroom. It could be something that is going on in class, whether it be the students or teacher.

Just reassure her that she will be fine, that mommy is always going to be there and how much you love her. Tell her that even when you are both away from each other, she is still there with you in your heart and mind. One other good thing might be positive reinforcements. Tell her if she is brave and does well at school, a treat will be in store! Take her to get ice cream on Fridays or take her to a place she likes to go. It can even be simple little things to make her feel she is accomplishing something great!

I know how you feel. I was a wreck when mine began school. Things will get better! Good Luck

Have the teacher give her a job to do at school. Like handing out the milk at snack time. When your daughter says she doesn't want to go ask her "Who would pass out the milk then" It will make her feel important.

maybe there is a reason. my son LOVED daycare. we moved and had to find a new daycare.
day 2 he screamed and cried not wanting me to go. day 3 he screamed and cried until I got him to the front door then he just went and sat in the corner defeated. there was no day 4. we found him another daycare and he liked it a lot
I had to find an odd hours daycare and he loved it. I have moved again and he likes his new one too.
the 1 daycare of his 5 that he hated so much has a hardcore rule against running inside and they only let them go outside for half an hour per day.

Nothing it just something that you have deal with she grow out of it.

On the way to school you can talk to her and tell her where she is going... ask her about school.. if they have any colors and what colors are they. If she has any friends... what are their names... let her know you want to go too and that she is so lucky to be able to go because youre not little enough to go in there with her.... just make her feel that you need her to go to keep you informed of how great and fun school is.

Did she go to preschool? If so, and you didn't have any problems there, then something is definitely wrong at school and you need to investigate. If she didn't attend preschool, this could be normal adaptation. Many kids (one of my three included!) have major tantrums over fear of abandonment or change of schedule. Try to find out WHAT your daughter doesn't like about school. If it is not a problem with a teacher or other child, and just normal adapting, then most experts recommend that hanging around the school only prolongs the 'scene' and your best off dropping her off and leaving quickly. Just make sure you reassure her how much you love her, tell her when you'll return for her, and then make sure you're early.

Well, obviously she does not like school. She might not like one particular element of it but usually this is actually because of the way school is. The whole schooling mentality of "education" and "qualifications" is built on the premise that children are not intelligent enough to learn for themselves.

If she doesn't like it, it is the most terrible thing for a child to be forced to do something that makes them that upset. Try to think of it from her perspective. If it is something trivial then perhaps you could discover what it is and remedy it (as the previous poster suggested) but perhaps even if it is trivial it is an indicator that she just doesn't agree with school. Even though you might consider this "extreme", it is not. Plenty of kids don't like school and a lot see it as something that they just "have to get through".

Now, it depends on your own opinion as to whether a child should be forced to do something against their will that they will see as something they just "have to get through" because they have been forced to do it. If you are interested in the "other way" of thinking about this, it is called TCS parenting, aka "taking children seriously". A website that explains this in some detail is http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/

Now, it may be that I have gone off on a complete tangent and in fact she is otherwise very happy at school and actually wants to be there out of free will. In which case, you just need to decipher what the cause of the upset is and help her remedy it. Otherwise, TCS is a serious consideration and there are thousands of people who live by it.

Home school her. Public schools are just places where children learn to sit down, shut up, and follow rules.

Seems something is bothering her, or someone. Find a nice quiet time and see if you can get any insight to all this. Good Luck

First speak to the teacher, if she/he convinces you everything is OK at school you will nothing to worry about. Just keep a check on it from time to time. Keep a good communication with the childs teacher.

I would just ignore the screams and cries. Try to keep calm and positive and dont react to her objection.
Make sure you put her favourite treat in her lunch box. She will associate going to school with something she likes.
After all did any one teally like to go to school.
Mother of three...

It is a sad thing, but I remember being like this when I went to kindergarten. I was very close to my mother and didn't want to leave her, I also was terrified of the new situation. Make sure you smile at her to put her at ease, even if she is upset and continue being pleasant when you drop her off, it will help her to not fear the new situation. If you are angry or afraid, she will be too.

Maybe you could negotiate with her to do something special after Kinder. I found this works with my granddaughter - we go to the Bakery for lunch, or to the park on the way home, or I buy her some cheap trinket at the Newsagency ....anything, so long as it is AFTER
Kinder. And never be late picking her up!

She is clearly spoiled and coddled, so it will take time to unlearn that behavior, that you created!!! No the paranoia in me would say maybe there is a reason for not wanting to be at school, but it is more then likely, her just being a spoiled little girl!!!