I told my pregnant sister-in-law the name my wife and I would like to name our child and they stole his name! Should I have been more guarded?
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chaskies says Geaux
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No- they shouldn't have been such jerks! :)
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There are plenty of names to go around. My cousin did the same to me, so I had to look for a different name, and found a great one! None-the-less they should have asked if you would be OK with their choice. My cousin didn't. :S
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You shouldn't have to hide it...they should know better than to take it like that.
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why not just use the same name? or kill their child?
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You did not make them act like this. This is just rude and hard to forgive! My Mom picked out my name and told her ex inlaws, they wanted the name too, luckily I was born first so I got the name. I would defintly confront your brother(I guess if she is your sister in law) and ask him if he knew a bout it. I am sorry and there are a lot of names to choose from and I am sure you guys will find an even better name for your child. Rub it in their faces(sorry that isn't nice, just funny);)
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There are a lot of people like that. I know some that won't even tell family members names they want because of that reason. I say you smack them, JK JK! I am sure you can find a better name. BTW what name is it?
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You can still name YOUR child that name you know. I can't tell you how many cousins I have named Danny or Dani. It seems like there's one for every aunt/uncle, and I even have an uncle named Danny! But um, what I'm saying is you should be flattered that they liked your choice in a name and repeats within the family can be confusing, but no big deal.
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Well, there's nothing you can do to change that now. Some people are like that, they steal ideas. It happens but there are many other names to choose from or many different ways of spelling a name. Try not to be mad at your sister-in-law for too long as you don't want this anger to spill over to the child :).
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I'm sure you are feeling hurt but look at it this way. "Imitation is the best form of flattery." If you want a unique name for your child I'm sure you and your wife will be able to find another equally lovely name. If your heart is set on that name itself go ahead and name your child the name you had thought. Next time though, do remember to guard your tongue before disclosing anything before people who are prone to betraying your trust.
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Augh.. what arses, they probably think they were complimenting you by using a name you choose because it was that good. You should not have to be guarded with things like that, but now you know where you stand with them too. Let them know, with a smile, that you are so happy that they choose the name you wanted to name your child because now you can find something better...and keep smiling <wink> Ok, that might be a lil catty, but do hold your cards close to the vest with these ones. ***On a simular note, I had a mom-in-law (wicked step-grandmother) that knew I was letting my daughter pick out her first (caged type) pet on her 6th birthday. The witch got her torn up and dying beta fish that was going to be trown out, from her son-in-law's workplace (petstore)before we could let the lil one in on her surprize. She was totally excited and blown away by the fishie as she had been wanting a pet for a while. He only lasted 2 weeks if that and it really hurt my daughter, and she felt it was something she did that killed him, that and she was terrified that the guniea pig we got her would die too.
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Youre sister in law is a b*tch!
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i'm sure you didn't think you would have to "guard" something like that....how rude! i'd name my child whatever i wanted and when the question came up i would gladly share the story with anyone who asked! hey~or you could tell her you researched the name and found out it was from some terrible person or meant something bad....so you changed your mind! lol
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They did not steal his name. They gave their baby the same name. So what? You can still name your child the same name.
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Being your sister-in-law, is the last names be different? If so, maybe the name "rings" more true with YOUR last name. If not, name your kid the same. When someone asks why YOU named YOUR kid the same as SHE named HERs (and hopefully within earshot of her), tell the story... Then say, "We decided NOT to change OUR minds about the name because it was a great name to begin with." And, from now on, don't share any info about names or ideas for the future with her. If she asks, just say, "Well, remember what happened with the name we gave you... I don't want you to steal anything else!" (And keep an eye on the silver!)
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After my grandmother died, my dad (Grandma's son,named Bill), my uncle (my uncle/Dad's brother in law, also named Bill), my cousin (Bill's son, also named Bill), and I (named Bill), met to decide what to do with her money. It was an interesting meeting and, if you listened to us talk to each other (lots of "Bill" and "Dad"), it probably sounded quite confusing.
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what fuckers. sorry to sound so harsh but i'd be so pissed. I'd name my kid that anyway
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She's a bitch What can you say. Just think though that Carma is a bigger bitch and all bad deeds do not go unpunished in some form. IE: The poor child will be ugly as sin and so stupid they will have to support it for the rest of it's natural life. Your child will be better of with loving forgiving parents. I'll take the bad carma for you on this one. LOL
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Well, it shows they liked the name a lot. It is a shame that they "stole" the name. But the question is, would you still name your child the same thing? There is nothing wrong with it.
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Ruthless, I tell you ruthless.That's on her you didn't do any wrong. Wll you now for next time not to trust her.
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Do not name your child the same name. It is confusing as hell. Take it from someone who has two cousins (on my fathers side) with the same name (and I was named after my mother.) It was flattering to My mom but couldn't they have at least changed the second name so that it isn't so confusing. I now go by a nickname because of this and am thinking of legally changing it. Which is sad as my mother gifted her name to me and I can't even use it. Legally it also has been a nightmare. DO NOT TELL THESE POOR PEOPLE TO GIVE THEIR CHILD THE SAME NAME AS A COUSIN.
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People are inconsiderate...how close are you with them, i would still name my child that just to piss them off
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Siblings do that, they always imitate. It is the biggest fomr of flattery. Yes, you should have been more guarded. Especially if your the cool one and people always look to you to for ideas. I know that stinks, because its hard to find a good name that really rings a bell with you, you'll find another one, and keep it to yourself.
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Yes. And shame on her.
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