think about it- when you're in a new relationship, you don't want to be "too extreme" in your emotions, otherwise you'll scare the person away. if you guys are this volatile now, how much worse will it get when you know each other really well, and are comfortable around each other?

I hate those kind of huge misunderstandings. I have experienced this and it tends to be par for the course in new relationships. I don't really know that I dealt with it very well since what I thought I heard really upset me. I know my heart dropped to the pit of my stomach. I reacted and then we talked it out and it was fine in the end. I wouldn't worry too much about it at this point.

It happens more than you think. If you guys can be mature about things, and handle things in a respectful fashion, it shouldn't be an issue. For example, if you thought you heard something, that would make you angry or whatever, before you react to it, ask if that's what was said. That way there are no misunderstandings.

All I can say is never assume anything. Never jump to conclusions. And, if you do either of these things make sure you get them straight soon. If you don't they will build, and, things will get worse and worse and, before you know it, the relationship is dead. That's how fragile any relationship is.

I think there are many reasons for this type of misunderstanding, and they can vary pretty widely. Sometimes, I will say something that just "comes out wrong", and the s/o will take it completely at face value before I have a chance to clarify. I consider those my own fault for not thinking enough before opening my dumb mouth. Other times, I think the s/o will hear what she wants to hear because of certain insecurities or preconceived notions about me. These kinds of instances always seem to disappear with time, though, as we become more comfortable with each other and learn to "read" each other a little more deeply. I do believe that when there's a misunderstanding, it usually takes the effort of both parties to cause it, and to correct it. In new relationships, it's extremely rare that both people will be 100% "in tune" with each other as far as how each person expresses themselves, or how they process what is said. Just make yourself clear whenever possible, and make sure if your GF is upset over a misunderstanding, make an effort to immediately rectify and clarify the situation calmly and without getting too worked up about it. Those kinds of things tend to feed on themselves. When someone is already hurt or upset, their perceptions of what you say are going to be a little slanted by default from that point on.

You need to listen 100% and not be filling your mind with what you plan to say next...then you need to calmly discuss the situation until each person feels comfortable that he/she has been heard..however long that takes is what it takes. Unless you are willing to do this, you will never resolve anything.