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Find activities to do OUTSIDE of the relationship. Things you can do on your own that you find enjoyment in. Try to think of things you liked to do before your current relationship, activities that you do not do anymore. Rediscover those activities and make them part of your life again. By investing all of yourself into her (like you are now) you will kill your S/O's attraction to you because you will seem like a person who does not have a life of their own. Best of luck to you.
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If you expereinced abandonment as a child then you will feel vulnerable when you're in love. It's the damaged Inner Child who is feeling insecure and needy. You can work with this part of yourself if you can identify it and imagine you're the director of a play and the little one ahs been dominating the stage for too long. Tell him there's no longer a role for him and that he can leave the stage now. Realize that you can keep yourself safe and when you no longer have a little, anxious child running your life your adult power will return. Therapy can help if it's very deep.
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I wouldn't be surprised if you are pushing her away with the attitude you have. I'm not trying to be mean. It does sound like you think a whole lot of her, but I also think you're expecting far too much from her. If I am wrong at all, please tell me.
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