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  • Put yourself out there. Let them know that you are interested. Talk to them. Most girls like a shy guy. Go for it!!
  • mayb you're looking in the wrong areas.. do you go to clubs? bars? .... i know that that's not a good place to find a woman, but... not all grls in clubs or bars are bad ppl. but there are a TON of girls there. i just hope you're not wanting anything SERIOUS from that though. just, put yourself out there, no matter how shy you might b. have a LOT of confidence, trust me, thats the key thing. :) goood luck
  • Perhaps you are focusing too much on hating it so much or that 'it's never gonna happen'. Thinking like that sets up a 'field' of negative/repulsing/invisible energy around you. People are attracted to personalities that sparkle with confidence and show positivity towards others. Once you let up on yourself a bit, you'll be surprised how quickly a girlfriend will emerge from your environment : )
  • What's the matter, you're making yourself look pretty but your white knight hasn't come riding in on a white horse to sweep you off your feet? You're a guy, we're supposed to make the first move.
  • This is probably going to sound shallow but, are you good looking?(not for my benifit)....Anyway even if you arnt you still can find a girl, are you in college? Do you have a job? Volunteer work perhaps?
  • Hey, don't worry so much. I was my husband's first girlfriend and we didn't get together until he was about your age. He was real shy too, but he pushed himself to get over it and go out on dates. He'd been on quite a few dates before he ever met me. One trick he used is to make a date plan, like I'm going out on Friday, and then find a girl and ask her. If your rejected ask someone else till you find someone. Don't make it a big heartbreaking deal. Just tell yourself your going on this date to get to know someone new. Don't give up! Continue meeting new people and have fun with it until you meet someone you can have a real relationship with.
  • Just get out there and approach them. I've had some pretty brutal and rude rejections in my life, but so what? It won't kill you. Once you get a real doozie of a turn-down, you realize "hey, this is as bad as it gets, and it's really not that bad after all". Then you've got nothing to lose because you've already had your baptism of fire, so to speak. And ladies, if you're reading this, make the first move more often. There is nothing more nerve-wracking for a guy than making the first move. I'd rather be thrown in front of a moving train. Dont use subtle signals to show interest, since guys never notice them. Just be direct with a guy you like. Say something like "Hi, I'm <inster name here>. Would you like to go out sometime?" It wll work. Guys like women who are direct. Making us guess your intentions just makes us cranky. :)
  • Your focusing on it too much, grls are just people.. don't re act like they are the ultimate godess, simple "Hey" learn to ask questions, to keep conversations going.
  • you have to help to be helped. you have to give to be given. you have to like to be liked. you have to get involved to be involved. you have to be a friend to find a friend. you have to give of yourself so someone can give of themselves. catch my drift? look for a girl who looks like you do. same build, same shaped head, same nice smile.
  • eh, dont worry. my bro is 21 but doesnt have a girlfriend. the main thing is..play it cool. have the friendly approach, play it totally cool so they can get to know you n stuff. and, again, dont worry your still young its not like you're 60 ,, :)
  • You've probably heard this a million times, but, be yourself, don't try too hard. Some girls like shy guys but if you truly hate being shy, stop being so shy and act out. Just don't become haughty.
  • Just be yourself and be cool girls can telll when your nervos
  • If you are an attractive person, it is possible that people think you are already taken.
  • Try the on line dating thing. Dont look like you are trying to hard. Just be cool and confident without over doing it. Hang out with friends, have a good time and make conversation with girls around you, that dont have a guy hanging on them.
  • Look nice check. Find girl check. Smile and look into eyes for 3 seconds check. If girl keeps staring and smiles she likes the attention and you look decent and not repulsive enough to insult her for even trying. This is what I know. But after this it is only my guess. Buy two drinks one for you and one for her. Then wave to her hi. If she waves back then wave to her to come and have a drink. Make sure to point to the extra glass and point it to her direction as you wave her to come.
  • I didn't have a girlfriend (a few dates, but no girlfriend) until I was 23. I'd almost given up looking, but keeping my eyes open. A girl joined a group I was in at the time (Adventure Simulation Club at Purdue/Dungeons and Dragons). Turns out, she'd joined with a male friend who was NOT her boyfriend, which I found out a couple of weeks later. I was also working with the theater department and asked them BOTH to the party (so she wouldn't feel threatened), and they came. We sat and talked all evening. Another party, a week later, and when I got there it was in full swing. She'd been watching for me (knew I'd be a little late), and after I got my beer, we went out on the front porch swing, where we remained in lip-lock for a couple of hours. Also turns out, she'd joined the club to meet ME. We were together for almost two years. Point is, when you STOP trying so hard is when THEY find you (or vice-versa). Don't worry so much about it. Believe it or not, that shows, and usually comes across as desparation. If you live in a college town, try out for some plays, or think seriously of joining a club there (especially if you went to the college) unless there's rules about being a student for the club. There ARE girls that go to them (sometimes with boyfriends, sometimes not, but even those with boyfriends, if they get to know you and like you, may be able to introduce you to some friend of THEIRS.) Even if you don't live in a college town, there are clubs and frats in or around your town. The whole idea is to meet people and network. They can help with jobs, girls, friends, etc. Like I said, don't worry so much about it. It will happen when it happens. Try NOT to be TOO shy around the girls, that's as much a turn-off as being too agressive. Just learn to enjoy life, in general, and things will come to you in its own time. Good luck. ;-)
  • Stop stressing over it. Women can see the stress and it changes your behavior in subtle ways that women pick up on. You are stressed about it and so pour that stress into the situation when around girls . Best thing to do is just be who you are when you aren't with girls all of the time...especially when you are with girls. Some won't like you but the right girl will like you. But you must loosen up and be the only thing you can be....you! The right girl will notice!
  • Im a 18 yr old girl im shy too all my friends are bubbbly and get asked out first im always left behind but im starting to come out of my shell its kinda fun
  • Key phrase: "never gonna happen to me." Son, if something you want to have happen doesn't, then MAKE it happen.
  • The more you obsess about this, the worse off you will be. My dad didn't meet my mom until he was 27. The girls who were interested in him, he had no interest in them. Think about it this way, you are alone and it sucks. You could be with a woman that is making you insane and that would be far worse than being alone.
  • start with older women
  • What makes you say they don't want to meet you? Maybe they are just nervous...If I was near you we could go out and I am sure something would change...
  • I wish I could help but I'm in the same boat. I'm just as anxious about other responses as you are. At least you talk to them. I fear rejection so much I can't talk to them.
  • Maybe beat the shit out of the toughest looking guy there and then go back the next week and the naughty girls will definately notice you. (I'm not reponsible for any legal costs)
  • I think that you have to keep on trying before you give up easily. Girls do want to meet people. Girls want to meet you. I think that you have to keep on waiting and keep on trying. Maybe there is something that is holding you back from meeting girls?
  • I dress well, am shy, and have zero confidence. I think that you have to make it happen. Don't wait for this person to come along. Just go over and introduce yourself...Hi. My name is ______________. Or ask a question so you can start a conversation. That's how I got over my shyness sometimes when I'm meeting new people. It's gonna happen soon. Just let it go sometimes.
  • Sometimes the things that old us back in love relationships actully depend on our outlook on love. If you're shy, sit more in the middle of a room or in a public place so people will notice you more. To meet new people, try going to places where other single people may hang out. Maybe a gym, a coffee house of some sort. I'm shy too and I know how scary it can be, but try approaching the girls you're interested in. Say hi and make some sort of small conversation. I hope this helps!
  • Being good with women is a skill. It will take you time to cultivate this skill, but if you put in the time and make an honest effort to get better you will. I was in your same boat when I was in high school, but I made a promise to myself that I was going to do whatever it took to figure women out. After years, and yes I do mean years, of rejection and hardship, I am finally at my goal. It took me about 6 months before I started to feel extremely comfortable around women. Now, 3 years later, I can basically just go up to any woman I see and talk to her. Sorry I cannot go into more detail, but it would take me far too long to write everything you need to know down. The key is being comfortable with your skill set, and getting out there. You will get better over time. I promise you.
  • You probably try too hard. Do some activity you like, and eventually shell come to you. I went ice skating once, and thats where i met my gf.
  • I was in the same boat. I was 23 when I met my first GF. that is what we get for being what women say they want rather than what they actualy want.
  • I was my boyfriend's first girlfriend, first kiss and first everything else. he was 21 when we got together. he had a similar story. he said the older he got the harder it was to talk to girls because he felt more and more inferior and less and less confident. we took a class together and we talked a lot. he invited me places, called to see how my projects were going and always seemed interested in what i was working on. you see, there is a myth out there that you have to play it cool. someone out there decided that you can only call once a week or send one message on facebook every so often. i say, go for it. if you are interested in someone, show it and if they reciprocate you will know it. if they shy away then forget them. bottom line, you have to try or else it will never happen. my bf wanted to write something: Hi, the first thing you should know is that the right person will come along for you. I know that it has already felt like an eternity and that you've heard this piece of advice before. Still, it is a truth, and you need to hang in there and trust that you are worthy of affection. It will happen for you. In the meantime, don't feel pressure because of your age. I was 21 and was convinced that I was gonna be a real-life 40 year old virgin. But once I stopped treating every girl like a prospect and more like a friend, things went a lot better in a hurry. The main thing you should worry about is not meeting girls, it is self-improvement, in whatever area of your life you see as needing improvement. For me, improving my hygiene, work ethic, and dedication to schoolwork really helped my confidence, and I believe this carried over into my social life. I used to get really bitter at people for having relationships, from fictional characters on TV to my own friends! I had to change this attitude before I was ready for my own relationship. Bitterness holds you back. Love life and love whatever it is that you do, and then you will love people and you will get loved back. Good luck:)
  • It will happen. Try and chill. go to places that you feel comfortable in and there is a chance to socilise with women. No magic required, just ask to see them again: a movie, a drink, next week at the (what-ever hobbie you do).
  • alright brother, don't listen to anyone but me. your body language is probably all off. maybe you think your confident but the image you put off is still very weak. look up "mystery", he a pickup artist. his friend "style" is a master also. when you find their material on the internet it can be overwhelming. but if u practice it, it will work. but the main thing you need to understand is "calibration". do this, and you will be come the man. that is all.
  • Try being friends with them first so they get to know you a bit better before you start a relationship and so you're more comfortable with them. Don't go too fast. Don't worry, you'll get someone great.
  • Confidence, maybe your showing no confidence, smile at the girls, make conversation, be real
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  • Are you approaching them? Give them a compliment...or make them smile/laugh.
  • You have to take a pro-active approach. You saying that they still don't notice you makes me think you just stand around waiting.
  • Women can smell fear. But if you are confidnet and socialize maybe they are noticing you and you don't know it. Women can be very sneaky. Look at other parts of your personality.. are you respectful, funny, like to have fun? I guess you should have no problems
  • The main thing is to not act like you just want a night of hot steamy fun. Don't stare at their assets (boobs). Just be really easygoing and light hearted, stick up for her when jerks try come onto her in clubs and such. get her MSN or phone number or if she likes her privacy give her yours and let her get back to you first. The main thing you have to remember is not to be too cocky. Be sincere and be a good friend. Take a couple of friendly meetings and get closer to her. Then if you start to fall for her and you notice she is acting the same way, whisper something romantic and loving in her ear then give her a peck on the lips. BUT, I can't stress this enough. Keep it cool and don't see feelings from her that aren't there. AND do not by any means just go in for sex or too early. It is the biggest mistake us guys make. Let them make the first move. Don't be afraid to be the b!tch in the bedroom the first time. Let her enjoy herself and she'll come back for more. Hope this helps.

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