Just broke up with my s/o because they are an alcoholic and can not take their verb abuse no more can any one make me feel better? just tell me maybe tell me i did the right thing..
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Well, there's not much to go on here, but if your S/O refuses to even try, (REALLY try), to stop, then it sounds like you did the right thing.
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I left my , now ex-husband, because of his alcoholic ways! He started out to be verbally abusive, wich turned in to mental abuse, & sometimes physical! I stayed with him because of our two children. I finally realized it was better to get out....Now I am engaged to a wonderful man, whom my kids love! I regret waiting so long to leave the ex! You did the right thing, believe me it only would have gotten worse!
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Well you did the right thing because im an alcoholic and I didn't realize at the moment that family is more important than booze, Im 3 years sober now and realize how much I affected people. I lost my family but slowly I will regain thier acceptance. If you stick around NOTHING changes, don't be afraid, be strong it is not your fault. When I was drinking I was very selfish and I did not give a damn about anybody but my good ol bottle.
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You absolutely did the right thing. Alcoholics are selfish and they can not be reasoned with under any circumstances - even when sober. Trust me, I know. My dad was one. The day he and my mom divorced was a happy day for me because I couldn't take their fighting any more. Although I loved him, the day he died I was almost relieved because i knew the emotional abuse would finally be over. You can't go through life like that. You can love someone, but like my dad told me: you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped.
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You definitely did the right thing. Alcohol and verbal abuse seems to normally lead to physical abuse. Getting out now, while it's verbal only, is the best thing you could do for yourself. If any kids are involved, too, then it's even MORE correct. Kids learn what they live, and/or blame themselves for trouble at home. See http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2748410 for what I think about staying in abusive relationships. And here's some ways I think work to get over a break-up - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628 (long form) and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2759724 (short form) Good luck. ;-)
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You definitely did the right thing. It would be a good idea to get some professional assistance so you can understand what it was about an alcoholic that attracts you. There may be alcoholism in your family tree (there is in most people's). But you don't want to exchange this guy for same person/different face. You will find things out about yourself that will be really helpful in making the best choices for the rest of your life. Good luck to you! It will work out!
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Wow, this hits home. Every time I drank I was verbally abusive to my ex-boyfriend. I couldn't understand why he was sticking around and never left me (for 8 months). Yes, we are very selfish. We are never satisfied, nothing is good enough. It's a shame they didn't want to get help. Now I know, if my ex would have said something, I would have, because I loved him. I never thought it bothered him. Finally, after he left, I realized how horrible I was to him, then started going to AA. Sometimes it takes something drastic to happen before somebody wants help. Just pray that they will get help and appreciate the fact that you don't have to be treated like crap anymore. I so regret losing my ex because of my drinking, but at least the next relationship I'm in will be a healthy one. Pray for them and pray for strength.
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You did the right thing. He sounds like a prick. You deserve better.
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You derserve to live your life any way you see fit. Love yourself first and most. Don't be abused any more. Keep doing the right thing.
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Yep you did the right thing......
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Absolutely! I divorced my first wife after 24 years for this very reason, and with hindsight don't know how or why I put up with her verbal abuse for the last seven to ten years. I tried for years to get her to change, but as I found out, unless somebody wants to change themselves, you're on that proverbial road to nowhere. You don't need this type of stress in your life, and can do much better, so well done you!
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I know how you feel, my ex was an alcoholic but he didnt even accept it, his drunken nights were my nightmare.. plus he was a coke consumer which he did behind my back while being drunk... those people need professional help and you are not expected to take the fall for him or tu tolerate any abuse. YOU DID WONDERFUL.
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Good for you :) I think you made a good decision :)
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