I feel the same way about myself.My friends and family say I could be a model but dont..hmm.

Are you for real or are we having a pity party?

If you want to look at yourself differently just say positive affirmations so that you eventually start to believe them. Start by saying that you like yourself and things like that and eventually it will be in your subliminal mind.

Its a problem most of us have at some point in our lives. We tend to be quite self-critical, and perfect airbrushed images in magazines don't help us feel any better about ourselves. Its also interesting that we tend to disbelieve positive comments but take negative ones to heart. Ten people a day could tell you you were gorgeous and you'd dismiss them, but one person makes a slight implication that your eyes are too small (or similar) and you end up obsessing over it for weeks. Its human nature and it is quite normal. Its important to remember that the most beautiful thing is being unique. If you fill a whole room with identical flawless skinny tanned blondes, suddenly they don't look so beautiful anymore. The curvy brunette walks in and steals the show. Whilst not everyone can be a supermodel, most of us can learn to make the best of what we've got, develop our own unique look that reflects our personality, and thus become more confident about how we look, even if we do carry a few extra pounds or don't have endless legs. Instead of comparing yourself to others, concentrate on yourself- figure out your best features (everybody has at least four or five- maybe you have a shapely neck, nice hands, or lovely hair- could be anything) and remember to remind yourself of these everyday. Dress in ways that draw attention to them and you will start to feel better. This is all that "gorgeous" celebrities have learnt how to do. Without the make up and fancy lighting and the help of stylists, most are fairly average looking. There is a possibilty that if you are constantly obsessing about your looks to the point of engaging in unusual behaviour, such as avoiding mirrors, refusing to leave the house in case someone sees you, or spending several hours applying make up daily you could be suffering from Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) a psychological condition similar to anorexia which affects about 1% of the population. It usually starts around puberty and involves a distorted view of your own appearance- sufferers believe they are hideously ugly and often take steps to avoid being seen in public, spend a fortune on make up and unecessary plastic surgery and may also engage in self-harm. If this sounds like you, I suggest you talk to your doctor as soon as possible- if picked up on early a lot can be achieved with counselling and (sometimes) medication. Have a look at this site if you feel you'd like to read a little more about the condition (there are many others- try googling BDD) http://www.bddcentral.com/ Chances are your feelings are nowhere near this serious and are just something we all experience from time to time- but it doean't hurt to check, because the help is out there. Hope this helps

In your mind your not but you are. Watch on of the cosmetic surgery shows and answer the question yourself. So answer this question: Will you go throught the painful recovery and if you do will you like yourself and how you lokk after the surgery and recovery?

So you think those people lie to you? Of course not! If not used to recieving them, it's hard to take a compliment. Don't be afraid to allow it inside. Real beauty comes from within. No kidding, I'm mostly attracted to self-assured women. They don't hide behind their shyness, hence showing themselves clearly. I can't love another unless I can see who they really are. When you feel bad, you look unhappy/bad, which again makes you feel bad. I've been there, and I've broken the circle, by accepting myself. I'm not perfect on the inside, but who is? I always felt guilty very long when hurting another accidently, but I didn't care to much if hurted by someone else. That's a double standard! I've forgiven myself; I'm no monster, just a human being. I can't please everybody! Realising this made me feel better and therefore look better. The circle works for ME now. Nowadays when I look bad,I'm so self-assured I couldn't care less about it...

All of you are being too kind. Except for the "pity party" person. For the person that posed the question in the first place...You say you have a low self esteem, and that people always tell you that you are beautiful. I say that you just like to hear people telling you that so you pretend to think you're ugly to obtain constant praise. If you really had a problem, you wouldnt be telling us that you're beautiful...

My advise: Always try to look at yourself in a positive light (this will hopefully increase your confidence) You are beautiful don't let anyone tell you any different. We're all beautiful in our own ways. And always remember this confidence is key!

Sometimes people tell others are beautiful because they tend to be nice, but sometimes they might actually mean it. the thing is, that it's all in your head. I'm like you and right now I've faced it and start looking to myself in a better way. Like..." Hey! Maybe I'm not that ugly? " Really , it's a matter of mind.

If people tell you that you're good looking, you're probably good looking, DON'T get cosmetic surgery, because it's not worth it,it'll just show how shallow you are,I do believe cosmetic surgery is necessary in some cases, but I do not believe it should be in this one, do something that may build up your self esteem, and you may stop feeling this way about yourself.

You are not happy because how you look matters too much to you. Thats a vanity that's almost like a disease. I know of people who admitedly say, yeah I know I'm dark and fat and they have a great girlfriend and great friends. I know people who live with defects and have great lives because how they look doesn't matter to them.

Lots of people would change their physical features if all they had to do is wave a magic wand. If it's affecting the functions of your life, please consult with a therapist who specializes in self esteem. I think you will find the money well spent . . . every penny of it. One step in the right direction that might be helpful is to make a list of all the hurtful things you can remember anyone saying to you in your entire life. Write the name of the person you remember saying it. After you have your complete list (and this might take a few days to remember everything), go back over the list, one by one, and forgive that person for saying that to you. Believe me, they never intended for you to carry this around with you your whole life. Hope that helps. :)

It looks from your profile that you might be newly divorced. That can whack your self esteem. Time will help. You have other good answers here.

YOU HAVE TWO PROBLEMS 1. Only your opinion matters to you. You are unable to accept compliments from other people. Their opinion doesn't matter to you. Only your mindset is correct to you. 2.How you look matters to you too much. The only way you can hate the way you look is if you look at the mirror too much. SUGGESTED SOLUTIONS: 1. Learn to want other things other than feed your vanity. As a tall and gawky teen, I read an endless list of books and learned to cook. This enabled me to travel the world and have a bigger perspective other than what I see when I look at the mirror. Look at Paris Hilton. She is so busy looking at herself in the mirror and watching her own videos and reading her own hype that she cannot even enjoy life for real. 2. If you cannot accept other people's opinion when they compliment you, then you obviously need to work on your people skills. If you are surrounded by artificial people then be around sincere people. 3. If you really are unhappy with yourself then get some cosmetic surgery. the problem with this is that it feeds into an insecurity that turns into an addiction. In all cases, the outcome should make you a better person.

First, I'm sure you are beautiful. Second, even if you are not it shouldn't matter and you should cultivate a sense of dignity around your entire person. You should worry less about yourself and your self esteem and try focusing your energy on helping other people. Then, I think you will find that you feel better about yourself and you will feel that what you are doing with your life is worthwhile.

First imagine you are a mutant and living in the hills. Now imagine you with your family and answering AB. got it?