Funny, because I always wanted one and when I found him I treated him so well that we got married and had a baby.

Does anybody really know how to treat anyone else? Most of us are just trying to do our best. However, I think a lot of people say they want a good man (or woman) but are not ready or willing to act in a way that deserves them. Of course no one will say they want a crappy man or woman. It's too bad that a lot of people want to be treated better than the way they treat others.

Yeah, that is funny. I got one and treat him pretty damn good.

Different women,have different ideas on what a good man is.So a man should figure out what they think a good woman is and go for that type of woman.

I'm sure this isn't true for all women. However, men and women are different. If a man doesn't show and/or tell the woman what he wants, then how is she ever supposed to know? The same goes for the opposite way around. People can't read minds.

"Familiarity breeds contempt." As with any other experience in life, people tend to start off a relationship realizing what amazing people they're with, but over time it's not surprising that some of those qualities get taken for granted. Sometimes space, time, and distance are truly necessary for people to appreciate what they've got. If you get into a hot-tub, it seems really hot at first, but after a few minutes you get used to it. You don't realize how hot the water is until you get out and then get back in. Lame analogy, but I feel it applies. Oh, and it's not just women who do this. PEOPLE do it.

Well, given my horrible dating track-record, now that I've finally found myself a good man, I'm really very sweet to him. Sometimes I think I'm too nice =P

I never wanted a good man, I wanted a good husband and I found one and we each treat one another with great respect and honor. I don't see a lot of good people searching for other good people out there. I see quite a few people going for looks/sex and then trying to change that person, change each other and it never works.

I think because a lot of people (women included) take people for granted.

I think you're presenting a stereotype here, and the generalization of "women" is a spectrum far too broad to be handled specifically. But a few thoughts are still in place. Women claim to want a good man - but who doesn't want a good partner? I'm guessing that as long as someone isn't getting hitched for money, it's happening solely for the purpose of love; adoration of someone's qualities that are found good. I definitely want a good woman. Don't you? Of course, the main point is the twist; the women who get one, don't know how to treat them. Now, I find feminist male bashers just loathsome and pathetic, but here, I'm going to have to stand up for the girls, because honestly, if this question is due to similar experience - which I strongly believe - the fault is hardly in the girl. I'll tell you a little secret: "I was always good to her, and put her on a pedestal. I never did her injustice, and yet she dumped me! Women claim they want a good man, but don't know how to treat them when they get one." Is exactly where the guys go wrong. So you're a nice guy? Women don't want nice guys! What they want is someone who presents a challenge. Of course you don't want to be difficult, but what you want is to add the word "no" to your vocabulary, and have your own opinions. Don't let her walk all over you, and don't adore her like there's nothing else but her and she's the next best thing since toilet paper! What you want HER to think is that YOU are the next best thing since popcorn. If she doesn't, then you can wave her goodbye. So, bottom line, don't be a wussy. And yes, a nice guy is a wussy. Give her challenge, learn to say no and have opinions on your own! Trust me, the girls will like it - just as long as the confidence doesn't turn overly cocky and egocentric. That's just plain lame. A smart, sane woman will definitely know how to treat a man when they get one. They know how lucky they are. I just think that your definition of a good man isn't exactly the same as their's. Then, of course, a word to back up the guys. Because actually, this statement you gave does hold good in some rare occasions. When's that? Well... Not all of the girls are smart and sane. But hey, those are the ones you go out with once, and never see again! So ultimately, you've got the ball. And if you're not smart enough to pick a good woman, or act like a good man in her eyes, it's not her fault if she walks.

Interesting question, and just how to you think she should treat him? And does every man wish to be treated the same way? And what is your definition of a good man? I am sure what I look for maybe different to what someone else looks for. And not all women are the same way that is over generalising.

my husband is a very good man and i feel blessed to have him in my life~i never take our relationship for granted.....everyday~i always do 1 thing that's just for him (even something small) you know, that has nothing to do with the house or kids but just him~ i enjoy making him feel as special as he makes me feel :)