My ex boyfriend used to verbally abuse me, which lowered my self esteem and made me lose weight. Now when I see him, I get a panic attack. can I file for a restraining order?
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The criteria for restraining orders vary widely from state to state; in some, all a women has to do is ask. In others, she needs to demonstrate a reasonable risk of harm. Your question did not indicate that your ex-boyfriend is currently doing anything that is threatening in nature; only that seeing him sends you into a panic attack. This is generally not the kind of situation that restraining orders are intended to address. While his past behavior towards you sounds reprehensible, your description of it does not rise to the level of physical abuse. You may have difficulty getting a restraining order.
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Ever tried moving out? is he the baby's father? if so, he will be there the rest of your life. you need to make a move now. it will only get worse. verbal abuse leads to physical abuse. he, apparently has lost respect for you. this is a major red flag. Is there more involved, than you have asked? if so, please advise.
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Pardon me for sounding like a barefoot, granola eating self appointed guru but I'll bet that if you play your cards right, hold your head up and realize that you obviously have just as much right to occupy space here, he may become so perplexed that he will write the same question on this site one day!
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To restrain him from what exactly?
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Since he has destroyed your self esteem you may need to seek therapy so you can get help in re-programming the way you perceive yourself. You can eventually get over having panic attacks every time you see him but I don't think a restraining order will help you do it. Good luck! I hope you get over him someday and realize your too beautiful for him!
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