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  • My grandfather died many years ago and I felt the same way but if we dwell on our past "failures" it will keep us from moving forward. I like to think he's "watching me from heaven" and live my life in a way I would think is pleasing to him. He will never be gone as he is part of who I am and he lives on through me.
  • G'day Debris, Thank you for your question and condolences on the loss of your nan. It is natural to think that we could have done more for a loved one. However, I'm sure that she knew how you felt and loved you. Again, condolences on your loss.
  • I think we all suffer the same feelings about those we love..we load ourselves up with the "shoudda,wouldda, couldda" until we bend over with the burden of them..I think if you showed your love and caring when you were with her, she knew how you felt and cherished that. We don't need to be in each other's pocket all the time to know that we're loved..but when we are together, we need to really be there, with that person, and not just there because we feel it is an obligation. :)
  • Debris, im so sorry to hear that, you and your family are in my thoughts, and im praying for your nan. Dont feel guilty honey, your nan knew how you felt about her and also knew you were living your life. She wouldnt have wanted you to be by her side all the time, and probably loved the visits you did have together. Its easy to feel guilt after someone has passed on.. i know ive been there, but honestly your nan wouldnt want you to feel like this.. im sure of it. Cherish the memories you have of her.. thats what she would want.
  • Think about the good memories you have of her. Think about any advice she may have given you. Write these things down and live in a way that you feel would honor her and make her proud of you.

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