Is it okay for my boyfriend to keep a picture of a woman he cheated on me with? I keep finding it and he keeps hiding it, why can't he just throw it away?
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Obviously he still has some kind of attachment to this woman and some kind of problem with respecting your feelings. That would definitely give me something to think about;)
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It's exactly as mentioned: your boyfriend is still attached to the other woman, which should definitely make you wonder about how long are you going to let him play his game with you, since that is exactly what he is doing. Obviously, if he was in love with you, and the relationship was great - as it should be - he would have no need for that kind of a picture and he would've gotten rid of it, and politely apologized when you found it. The fact that he doesn't, and that he keeps on hiding it, suggests that it's not the only thing he's hiding; and I believe that the fact that you let him get away with cheating, and are now letting him get away with this gives him all the power in the relationship, making you the one who's been twisted around HIS little finger. Just a word of advice, to make you think about this quite alarming situation.
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Nope, not ok.
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Wow, I imagine the act of him hiding the picture so you can't find it could perhaps be an analogy to how he hid his affair with her. Ask him why he won't get rid of the picture, and be ready to tell him how it is going to be with you - you shouldn't have to wonder if he still has feelings for her. Either he does or doesn't.
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it sounds like a game. next time you find it. burn it.
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No. Not okay. For any reason. Have you asked him what he's still hung up on so badly that he's willing to hurt your r/ship for?
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instead of being offended by it; sit down and have a serious discussion with him about it; about how it hurts you and ask him how it would make him feel if you had a picture of your ex or someone you may have seen prior your relationship. is this a long time serious relationship? however, the answer is NO, it is not okay for him to have her picture. maybe he really cares for her more than you and if so, then that's something you need to know about.
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I don't think its ok at all. I think its disrespectful to you and it also shows that he still has a hang up about her...especially if he keeps hiding it. Maybe you should find a new boyfriend!
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Not OK at all. But then again, if I was cheated on I wouldn't be around to see if he kept a picture of the chick he cheated on me with.
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I think if he hasn't thrown it away, YOU should throw it away. If he doesn't like what you did, remind him where the front door is.
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It's not okay. If he cheated with her, all contact with her should be broken including any photos, cards, or gifts exchanged, as good faith to YOU that he is serious about changing and begging for your forgiveness. It's up to him to keep making you feel secure and loved, and for him to try to rebuild that trust. Keeping the photo is destroying that every time he doesn't throw it away after asking you for forgiveness yet again.
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NO, it is NOT ok, and you need to just throw him away!! Demand some respect! You're allowing him to treat you this way.
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Not ok - maybe he wants you to throw it away for him?!?
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How is that okay at all? To me, that tells me that he is not sorry for what he did to you. You don't have to be with him, you know. Would you rather this continue, end up marrying him, and then struggle with getting a divorce, ... or would you rather leave now, while it's easier to do so? It's your choice what you do about this whole situation. You most likely know him better than we do, after all.
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No way. tell him to get on his bike! I am being serious!
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Sounds completely untrustworthy to me. I wouldn't stay in the relationship.
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Im surprised he would do this. He must not feel that guilty about it. Most guys who cheat and feel guilty want nothing to remind them of what happened. Thats so unfair to you. Hes lucky enough you took him back so he should not be pushing his luck with this picture.
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