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physical force or mental?? Both are forms of abuse no matter how "sorry they are", or how much they say "i love you" It is a disgusting CRIME, and i belive abuse of any kind will get worse as time goes on. Maybe your love is only there because you think there is nothing better out there, and nothing more that you can do... YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS!!! You CAN find someone that will respect you and treat you better!!! making you feel bad, is a for of manipulation, he has you right where he wants you, and if you dont stand up for yourself, it will get out of hand because he thinks you wont leave him and that you will put up with it..
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If he says "I love you", but then abuses you, then his words are not in harmony with his actions. Perhaps the problem is that he doesn't know the proper way of loving somebody (there could be all kinds of reasons, really). The important thing for you to know here is that: there is no good excuse for abusing somebody else. None. Wow. It is so easy for me to say, "get out" or "run"...but I respect that it is much harder for you to actually follow that advice. Because your feelings are going to get in the way. The problem here is that by accepting his "I love you" you are forgiving him and enabling him to continue abusing you. You need to take a stand. If he loves you, then he will respect you for your strength and do his best to support your needs. Good luck to you. Thanks for venturing out to seek help.
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Unless you seek -proper & professional counselling- to understand why you continued to let yourself be abused, then there is a high chance you will continue this pattern over and over with each r/ship. Kind regards.
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When he calls, hang up on him! Better yet use an answering machine to screen your calls. If you truly love someone you don't force them to do things against their will, or make them feel bad. His saying that he loves you is a form of control. Find a counselor that has experience in this area, a good place to start is your local domestic violence agency.
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I've said it before and I'll say it again. It is rare for abusers to change. So, if you want to continue to be treated this way, just stay around him. They will treat you nice and make one promise after the other. My advice would be to listen to what people are telling you.
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