You could - but where would it stop. IF you check his emails and there is nothing there you will start imagining he deleted them or that you'll need to keep checking in case you just missed it. If you check them and there is something that upsets you then you'll have to decide how to deal with it - if you tell him you'll have to admit snooping and he could well have an explanation but your trust will have been completely destroyed and potentially so will his. I think you should concentrate on how you feel - you say you forgave him but you haven't dealt with it properly or you wouldn't still be doubting him. I think you will alwys feel unsure and maybe the long distance thing isn't working and you should move on and find someone closer to home.

You should be afraid to trust him. My bf moved to another state also and to this day I dont know if he has cheated, even when he was here, I had suspicions, but never caught him cheating. My bf also swears he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me and I love him very very much. He claims since he has been apart from me, for about 8 months now, he realizes just how much he loves me and wants to move back to be with me. He says he realizes that he has made stupid mistakes, etc. I told him I do not totally trust him and he will have to win back my trust. I am suppose to book a flight by tonight to go see him next month so we can talk and make things better and do you know I had every intention of booking the flight and was feeling very excited to see him again and work things out. BUT NOW I AM RETHINKING the whold thing. I desperately want to believe that he has seen the error of his ways and is able to change some of hte things he did that made me feel uncomfortable, but I have to ask myself, WHO AM I KIDDING? I am probably only kidding myself. He does not know this yet, and probably wont believe it when I tell him I didnt book the flight (it was a special price & will not be abaiable for very long & we cant afford the more expensive ones). In your case, you know your boyfriend cheated twice! You know what they say, Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater! I would suggest to you to please save yourself the emotional heartache and move on. And I certainly would not recommend you pick up and leave everything behind to move to where he is! Especially being you dont know you can trust him. If you decide to stay with him and give him another chance, make him move to where you are and make him go out of his way to prove his love for you. And let him know that you will under no circumstances tolerate any secrets or indiscretions. Good luck!

Once someone has cheated on you it's very difficult to believe that person again. If he was the one to admit it that's one thing. But if you found out through other means and then he admitted it because you confronted him that would be a different story. I think I'd be tempted to check the email and see what's going on. I'd think long and hard about moving in with someone who's an admitted cheater. Especially a long distance away. Why does everyone say that they have trust issues. You do not have trust issues....you have "my boyfriend is a cheater issues". And no your not insecure either. Your smart. Listen to your heart.