Can you make gifts without expecting anything in return? Not even seeing their happiness?
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PokkiTokki
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People who donate to charities do this all the time. These days charities send a "thank you" email. It didn't use to happen before.
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This is a difficult talent to learn, and I am quite sure I am not there yet. I do know a few people who are good at it. Jim Brower, the guy who talks about gratitude rocks on the movie The Secret, spoke recently in Salt Lake City, Utah on teaching his family how to give without thought of return. They never even see the face of the people they give to. Their son likes to pay for the meal of the person behind him when eating in the drive thru at McDonalds. ;) Someone did that for him once, and it changed his life.
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Yes - Its the best way to give.
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Seeing the happiness of a gift is one of the greatest things I have experienced. I work volunteer for the Bali PRotestant Church Orphanage system (Indonesia) and visit the kids once a year on average, taking gifts donated by companies and individuals. I also send things up with people going there. But sending things, even though I do not see the faces of the kids, is just as good. When I count the number of people who have visited and taken something, I know the kids have school supplies, clothing, toys and food. If I can, I also send donated goods to other parts of the world. I will never see the faces of the children and adults that receive many of the things, but that's okay. I know they were happy to receive them.
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I think this is one of the difficult things people do, if ever. I am not talking about donations or charities. I am talking about giving gifts to someone they know or sort of know. People almost always "expect" some type of an acknowledgment and when they do not receive that recognition, they tend to get upset or even angry and label the recipient as ungrateful, rude, etc. and I wonder sometimes why people give gifts. I mean REALLY give gifts...and you know, I've heard the "oh I don't want anything in return" or "I do it because it makes me feel good to give"...but, they actually DO want something..a "thank you" or something. And if they truly do it to make them feel good...do they ONLY feel good if the person receiving the gifts reciprocates????? I think people really should practice giving without expecting anything in return so that they do not ever get disappointed. I have a family member that gets awfully upset when she is not acknowledged for her "kindness" so she turns bitter. It's sad, really.
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No I can't. I atleast wantto see some happiness in their face.
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Certainly, of course seeing happiness is the most wonderful return gift of all; however, giving a gift without expecting anything makes it a true gift from the heart.
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