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A guy tells you he wants to sleep with you in one bed but not have sex. Can it be sincere or will he try to have sex and thats a way to get you in bed with him?

By totally_confused Asked Apr 12 2008 6:13AM
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by katespana on Apr 21, 2008 at 2:03 pm Permalink

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It's hard not to have sex when you're so close and relaxed together. If you are attracted to each other the chemistry and natural biological urges will take precedence in the middle of the night. You'd be better advised to decide whether you want and are ready for a sexual commitment then at least you go into it with your eyes 'wide open' rather than half or fully asleep! And you can take the appropriate steps to protect yourself from pregnancy too, that way.
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Avatar totally_confused Apr, 28 2008 at 10:39 AM
i keep asking myself and the more i ask the more i realize that maybe i was to fast to assume that sharing a bed with him was what i wanted...i am sure it is absolutely possible with some people but as i said before i do not know this about the person i am talking about thats why i will most probably give it a pass...and by quite young you mean?!
Avatar katespana Apr, 29 2008 at 06:33 AM
Hey! No offence intended. 'Quite young' meant simply that maybe you were a little inexperienced that's all, that's no insult to you.
Avatar totally_confused Apr, 29 2008 at 09:42 AM
:-) no offence taken...i was just wondering whether my question and my comments made me look younger and less experienced than i am! i will keep it a secret, ok?!... lets just say im not THAT young

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by LJPearl on Apr 13, 2008 at 6:31 pm Permalink

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If you do not want to have sex with the guy, then I would not sleep in the same bed.
Regardless of your or his intent, temptation could take it to another level in no time.
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Avatar totally_confused Apr, 14 2008 at 12:07 AM
well with the tempatation i do not agree.. i think no matter what the circumastances (well... maybe if youre drunk it does not apply) there are two people involved in sex and two people can control it and prevent if from happening... having somebody next to you when you wake up with their arms wrapped around you is worth giving a try
Avatar Adrift108 Apr, 20 2008 at 12:27 PM
id agree with totally_confused

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by th1s1sit on Apr 12, 2008 at 6:58 am Permalink

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If I didn't want to have sex with this person, I would not share a bed with him. Sounds like it could cause all sorts of miscommunications.
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Avatar katespana Apr, 21 2008 at 02:02 PM
It's hard not to have sex when you're so close and relaxed together. If you are attracted to each other the chemistry and natural biological urges will take precedence in the middle of the night. You'd be better advised to decide whether you want and are ready for a sexual commitment then at least you go into it with your eyes 'wide open' rather than half or fully asleep! And you can take the appropriate steps to protect yourself from pregnancy too, that way.

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by bbgunngirl on Sep 13, 2009 at 3:13 pm Permalink

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well just ask him make him promise he wont try anything and if he wont just dont sleep in the same bed as him.
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by Finny wears a COAT of Romance on Nov 22, 2009 at 4:17 am Permalink

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Of course he can be sincere.
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by failed_stoic on Nov 21, 2009 at 9:42 pm Permalink

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It could be sincere. How much confidence do you have in your ability to tell him to back off in the event he takes it further than you're comfortable with? How likely is it that he is really trying to seduce you? Maybe you'd like cuddling. You're in the best position to analyze the situation's pros and cons.
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Boy, I just realized how late I've answerd this question. It looked like an interesting question, but it was asked quite some time ago.
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