I come from a dysfunctional family. We are all so far away from each other now, contact is uncomfortable. The whole family,Grandma to 2nd cousins. I hardly feel related to anyone. How does this come to pass so easily between "loved ones?"?
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I honestly couldn't tell you, other than that I think some families were just never close to begin with. You can always start communication though, while it may be terribly awkward. I have the same thing with my family. I have not yet left my parents house, but we really don't talk to or see any of my extended family. And even the immediate family is distant with each other.
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We eat separately now. One watches television, the other has her nose in a book, Sonny's ears are plugged with his iPod, and dinner has been ordered from Pizza King. Sister takes her slice upstairs to her bedroom, she's on the phone with friend, and Dad is still at work; he'll be home after we're in bed. Sunday he'll sleep late and the rest of us--well we all have our own things to do.
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You need to get everyone together and read your Bible together.
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Families, like marriages, take lots of work and nurturing. Let either of them slide and you begin to lose whatever love was there in the first place. Great families and great marriages require a great deal of work, as well as love, acceptance, supportiveness and patience.
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I can't begin to understand how a thing like that could be. My entire family had always been filled with love, with only one or two exceptions. I had a couple of family members who took themselves away from us, without ever explaining why. Some people are apparently just driven to make their own life. We have a family group on Yahoo, and members all over the world are in regular contact with the family news they want to share.
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It's a very different world. One is encouraged to "go for it" and that might mean moving away..you meet someone who lives elsewhere or wants to move elsewhere and you pack up and go..educational goals take us away from each other..busy lives separate us from one another. It's called, for lack of a better word, "progress". Very different now than when I was a little girl. My son's life was very different from mine. And so it goes! :)
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I think it varies from one family to the next. I have some members who keep in touch with me and others who have stopped. The only thing I have done is move a little further away than I was before. But then, I have a brother who lives in another state and those who have (not ended but lessened) their contact with me, but not him. Some people just can't handle closeness I guess. Others.....maybe they don't like that I will speak my mind and not conform to what they think is right. Their loss. Then again, I can say the same things about myself, I guess.
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Some families just weren't that strong to begin with.
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Close families usually rally behind one senior, alpha dog member. Your family obviously lacks that one individual that draws everybody together, and to whom they all look to for guidance and inspiration, who will make absolutely certain that all the family is included in group activities from time to time. This person must exude genuine love for every member of the family and actually work (most often without making it look like work) to keep every one involved. They must set an example for all the others to follow - keeping regular contact, offering assistance when needed, inviting others to outings (day at the mall, walk on the beach, trip to Granny's, ...). . Here's your chance to shine. Don't blow it, your family's future is at stake.
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I don't know what to say, but I come from a large family that is very close as far as my brothers and sisters and my nieces and nephews. Grandparents passed many years ago and I have no relationship with any of my parents brothers or sisters. My moms sister who was closest geographically is great, but very kooky and her kids are super smart, but socially inept. My dads brother closest in proximity is very wealth orientated. Kinda like a rapper bragging about his bling while being a crazy right wing Conservative. While I don't speak enough with my 6 siblings enough and we are spread all over when we see each other we have a great time. second cousin is a random stranger as far as I'm concerned. My neighbor may be related to me for all I know, but they called the cops on me once so f*ck them.
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My husbands family is like that but he seems fine with it. I guess there wasn't a strong enough bond .
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Crap, this is supposed to be a comment. Delete.
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People get wrapped up in themselves.
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There is no perfect family. Ever since my mother past away a few years ago my family has drifted apart it was like she was the glue that held us together. There's more to it then that with my family there were abuses in our family. Abuses whether sexual, physical, or physiological are normally key to why there are dysfunctional families. Neglect is another one. Lastly and most importantly people don't have God in their lives and without him lives are shattered.
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