well, there's the typical virgin-whore complex, that subconsciously you want to be your fiancee's first lover. You see her as being a "pure and clean" creature, but you may be simultaneously repulsed by the fact that she's "gotten around" so to speak. there are other things i'm sure, such as the fact she's shared a good deal of intimacy with other guys and that kind of relationship seems like it could only exist between the two of you, as it does now. however, just think about the fact that though she was with these guys for a significant periods of time, there was something wrong enough in their relationships that your fiancee never decided that she ought to marry them. and did you even know your fiancee while she was dating these other guys? b/c she may have been a really different person during that time and those men probably have a lot to do with the woman she is now, the woman that YOU love and the woman that chose to say yes to YOU. and besides, you've probably had sex with other women, maybe even more women than the men your fiancee's had sex with. I won't tell you that you can't judge her for what she's done b/c you've done the same things, but maybe the way that you feel about the women you've slept with in the past makes you feel a little uneasy about how she might think of her former lovers. Anyway, I don't think you should worry too much, b/c if you love her enough to propose and she loves you enough to say yes, there's seems to be much more going for you guys together than either of you had with old lovers.

It's a maturity issue. You should get over it. You may not be first, but it is more important to be last. At least you can be next. Are you a virgin? If not, isn't this sort of a double standard?