My ex broke up with me bc she is planning to travel overseas for a year this summer. We talked as 'friends' via phone for 2 months every day and she recently told me she misses me. When I tried to make plans to hangout she said she couldn't get involved
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Let me start by saying that I am a woman (for the purpose of point of view). Do yourself a favour and disentangle yourself from her yo-yo game. She obviously has no regard for your state of mind or emotion. If she did, she wouldn't put you through this, she is being selfish by not just letting you go (in fact she did let you go) in a nice and clean way.
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It's a womenspeak. Translation: she keeps probing you but she is not really interested or she keeps you warmed up on the bench as a backup. Don't count too much on getting back together with you if you are "friends" with her. Move on, go out and find somebody else. The paradox is that when she realizes that you have really moved on she may want you back (depending on the situation).
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For some reason I can't post comments so I will responde this way. I asked the original question and I appreciate the feedback. I think its the latter. I know she likes me and is very interested in me. She has a lot of uncertainty in her life. She is 22 and graduates college in a month. I am 26 in NYC. I know what I want. She doesn't. She wants to travel apparently and then go to law school (NYC being 1 of 4 cities.) If she would go to law school in NYC I would def stay with her for the 9 motnhs while shes in Spain. But thats not an option until she decides it is bc ultimately the whole relationship rides on her decisions in life. Long story short, I cut off communication 3 days ago. She told me she was coming to NYC to go to MoMA and "maybe we could meet for a drink afterwards." Maybe?! We speak daily for hours on the phone and haven't seen each other in 2 months and maybe we can meetup?? I said I have had enough of the games and I am nobody's backup plan. Hopefully, she comes around and decides she wants a relationship bc I do see a future with her. We shall see. Thanks for the advise!
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