You're right, saying "I love you" is a lot easier than proving with their actions. You need to keep telling him how you feel, especially about his words and actions, if they don't line up. The only way for him to know your expectations is to communicate them. The only way to know how he is feeling about the relationship is to ask him. Good luck! +2

God I wish I knew! But in my own experience I've come to realize... Guys are very complex creatures with many different corner and turns and varying depths. Many times guys are genuine and sincere...but deny it. Some rly aren't and just tell a girl what she wants to hear cuz he cares enuf not to hurt her feelings. The reasons are endless. Not giving up freedom is actually pretty common in guys and girls. Especially is you haven't dated around much and are young. And the confusion comes along with that. It can be hard to know what you want. And guys are no different. But guys...sometimes it's more superficial than that. Guys are influcenced a lot and sometimes conform to the typical guy standard of dating around and not being committed. But one thing is for sure...many guys are more emotional and genuine than we think. But they allow outside factors and superficial factors get in the way. So they never know what they want or how to get there. Cuz it's too much to sort thru. That's my best cross-examination. But one will never rly know.

1) Some guys say it just to get into your pants. 2) Some guys (say the ones who ALWAYS seem to have a different girlfriend every week or month) CAN get confused... They may actually love you, but it's so easy for them to pick up someone else, they aren't sure that they're ready to settle down. I don't know that "a lot" of men go through that, but I DO know there are quite a number who would rather just find one unattached and available girl, and have at least a long-term relationship with her, if not marriage. When it was me, I'd have been the guy either sitting against the wall at a party, or at the end of the bar or somewhere in the back nursing a beer and watching all the "hot" guys get the girls. I'd be wondering why the girls can't see how fake some of them are, and wondering if I needed to be fake, at least for a while, to get a girl. It just took a while, and when I stopped worrying about it, I found her (rather SHE found me). So, you can take your chances and look for the "hot guys" or the "partiers", and be burned, or see if there's any other guys you don't normally pay attention to, if you want a long-lasting relationship.

Before my husband was a Christian, he proposed to a girl, knowing she was a virgin, told her he loved her...just to get in her pants. I told him he was a jerk!! If someone really loves someone, settling down/marrying is supposed to be the easiest decision.